The big changes that you must make in yourself to make a chastity relationship work is to commit to frequently teasing him, like you no doubt did when you first dated, and to having much more frequent sex yourself. The two can be one and the same thing. Having him perform cunnilingus on you while locked up is almost guaranteed to drive to the edge. Fortunately for you, the chastity device will keep him from going over.
The more fun you have teasing him, the better! The more sex you have without letting him come the more he wants you. Remember, you have all the time in the world to teach him to do sex the way you want, without any need to worry about getting him off. Once locked, all he does is fantasize about you. You will need to decide for yourself whether you want to be the one initiating sex and whether or not you allow him to ask for a release.
Teasing does not need to be a time-consuming activity. There are almost an infinite number of ways that you can tease him, both physically and verbally. It may seem like a lot of work sometimes, but he will shower you with attention. The hardest thing will be getting that much attention again.
Examples for how you can tease him:
- Be physical. Give him lots of kisses and hugs throughout the day.
- If you wear the key on a necklace, play with it when he looks at you.
- Grab his crotch frequently. Gently squeeze or slap his balls.
- Ask him to give you a full-body massage.
- You can wear sexy clothes around him, for example miniskirts, yoga pants or whatever clothes he really likes. When you’re home you can walk around just in your underwear – I promise you he won’t be able to take his eyes off you!
- Send him naughty texts or photos when he is at work.
- Conversation takes very little energy and allows you to increase his arousal without having to do anything. Remind him how his chastity turns you on. Ask him if he misses masturbation. If seeing him struggle to get erect entertains you let him know; maybe you find his penis cuter when it’s all small and flaccid, or you enjoy his inability to touch himself – whatever it is communicate it.
- You can tease him about his lock-up time. Tell him that you’re planning to keep him locked for a very long time and that he’d better be good if he wants to be unlocked at all. Act disappointed with how he’s not earned to be unlocked yet even though you’d “love” to feel him inside right now.
- Masturbate while he is locked and let him know or even watch.
- If, like most women, you prefer receiving oral sex to normal intercourse, you can decide that from now on cunnilingus will be the default form of sex in your relationship.
- Give a man an orgasm and he’ll forget it in a moment – deny him the same orgasm and he’ll never stop thinking about it. You can unlock him and allow him to masturbate in front of you – however, at any point, you can “change your mind”. Kindly tell him that “that’s all for now” and you want to “save it for later”.
- There is the classic tie him down to the bed, take off the cage and work over his cock for as long as you want. Every time you feel him close to an orgasm stop and straddle his face and have one or more yourself. Stay with it as long as you can and you will leave him a marshmallow.