The Secret to a Happy Marriage 💕
This is a medium-length chapter.
Finally, release day has come around! Now it’s his turn, for once! When you allow him an orgasm, this can be as effortless as you could possibly imagine. On release days, his excitement will probably be so high that bringing him to climax can take as little as a few seconds. Sometimes he will come just by taking the cage off... In which case, job done, and back in he goes!
Stick to your own desires and preferences when you think about how to give him his release. Don’t be afraid to be creative, and always remember to re-lock him as soon as possible after you’re finished.
If you enjoy giving blowjobs, or if they’re his favourite and you want to really spoil him on release days, then go for it. Personally, I don’t do it as often as I used to before we started chastity (only when I’m in the mood for it). Sometimes I tease him about the fact that he goes down on me all the time but I rarely reciprocate.
It’s fine to let him ejaculate inside you if that’s what you want. However, in my opinion it’s best not to let him come during intercourse. When sex and ejaculation are separated it lets him focus on you. If your husband struggles to last, he can wear a penis sleeve (see picture) or strap-on during sex to avoid accidents.
My husband and me have sex regularly, but it’s about my needs and ejaculation is never expected. After I’ve had my orgasm (or two), we cuddle for a while to feel closer to each other. I really enjoy these moments. Once his erection has calmed down, he puts the chastity device back on and then we either chat a bit or roll over and fall asleep. Sometimes I allow him to take care of himself before re-locking, but this is the exception.
On special occasions I allow him to finish inside me, but I expect him to go down on me afterwards until I feel clean again. This is an incredibly erotic and intimate act for both of us, and it was originally his idea!
He should never come without your permission. If he still does – even if it’s an accident – there must be some consequences. Consider cancelling his next planned release or keeping him “pussyfree” until further notice. One of the women I spoke to even makes her boyfriend pay her a (consensual) “illegal ejaculation tax”.
Many women simply allow their man to jerk off on release day. He should ideally do it in your presence, rather than alone. There should be a time limit – never more than a few minutes – so you can make sure he only ejaculates when is actually horny. A fun idea is to give him “jerk off instructions” – tell him how to do it.
It’s your game – you’ve got control of the joystick and he’s here for your fun. Below are some ideas to spice things up if you feel kinky. Pro tip: Use a condom for easy clean-up!
You can give your husband a maximum time, for example, if his last ejaculation was two weeks ago, you could give him no more than two minutes to come. If he doesn’t make it in time, he will be re-locked and you can tell him with a big grin that he was obviously not horny enough and should be locked up a bit longer next time. Some women even “train” their husbands to come as quick as possible, perhaps because they like the feeling of being too hot to handle for him.
This is when you don’t stop stroking after he ejaculates. When a man orgasms, his glans soon begins feeling extra sensitive and wants to be left alone. If you keep stroking and rubbing his glans he will be overwhelmed by the intense feeling. You may need to restrain his hands before! But don’t worry, what you’re doing is completely harmless, like tickling. It’s just too funny when my husband is asking me to stop stroking his cock.
This is when you stimulate him until just before the “point of no return” and then remove your hand and completely stop all stimulation just before he orgasms. If you time it right, instead of ejaculating in “bursts”, the semen flows effortlessly down the penis – hence they are also misleadingly called “ruined” orgasms. If done correctly, he will still be horny afterwards and will stay hard as a rock, still wanting more, even though he just came. Keep him guessing – he shouldn’t know beforehand if you intend to give him a touchless or “normal” orgasm.
“The so-called “ruined” orgasm is one of the most intensely pleasurable tricks you can use in the bedroom to drive your man into an animal sexual frenzy. The name is misleading: it’s still an orgasm! A properly ruined orgasm is STILL potentially more intense than a normal orgasm! It’s not “ruined” at all! Don’t feel bad about ruining your man’s orgasm! I simply cannot say it enough.
Basically, a ruined orgasm (or three) multiplies his sexual endurance for the rest of the night, without reducing his desire.
To bend your man’s brain and give him truly epic ruined orgasms, you need to know his body very, very well. You need to study his specific sequence of escalating physical pleasure signals, to identify the first possible moment in the sequence where you can let go and cause him to still cascade through climax. Arched back, tensed muscles, grunts, whimpers, pulsing cock, retracted balls – every man has his signals. Instead of letting go at the last second you actually want to let go as early as possible. You want him to hang, untouched, on the verge of climax, for as long as physically possible, before his body reflexively sends him over. However, men always misjudge their own point-of-no-return. In order to find his true point-of-no-return, you need to study the cascade of physical reactions happening in his body until you find the point where he lingers for 5 to 15 seconds, untouched, before leaking uncontrollably. Basically the power of his “cumshot” is a clue to help you know if you’re doing it right (weaker is better).
Do it correctly, and his cum should just dribble out, under weak contractions. Another huge clue that you’re doing it right will be in his refractory period – or lack of one. After a typical good ruined orgasm, his cock should not wilt at all. He should stay aroused, erect, and eager for more action.
I allow him to have orgasms, but he can only have them on my terms. I can choose to “finish” him. Or I can choose to “ruin” him. He gives that choice to me, willingly, lovingly, every time.”
– shortened quote from this great article ↗:
This can be a lot of fun if you both like it. Ask your husband if any of these ideas excite him:
The chastity device will prevent penile stimulation and erections, but some men can still spontaneously ejaculate without being unlocked when they’re extremely aroused. For example, he may “leak” while going down on you. It is also possible to deliberately “milk” him while he is locked. Pressing a strong vibrator against the cage or testicles may lead to ejaculation, but most likely he’ll remain unsatisfied and horny afterwards. Many men also enjoy getting “pegged” ↗ (penetrated) by their partners which can lead to – apparently very pleasurable – prostate orgasms.
Almost done! You have finished six of the seven core chapters!