Now that you know when to let your husband ejaculate, I will briefly discuss how you let him ejaculate. Like always this is totally up to you as the keyholder, so don’t be afraid to be creative!
Some women like letting him masturbate, because they like to watch or because they don’t want to lift a finger themselves. I would discourage you from allowing him to masturbate when he is alone (for example, sending him to the bathroom for a quick wank); instead, he should always do it in your presence. Also, if you allow him to masturbate, there should be a time limit, never more than a few minutes, so you can make sure he only comes when is actually horny.
I discourage letting him come during intercourse because I feel that sex and ejaculation need to be separated to avoid accidents. If your husband struggles to last during sex, he can wear a penis sleeve or strap-on to avoid accidental ejaculations.
My husband and me have sex several times per week, but it’s about my needs rather than his selfish ones, and ejaculation is never expected. I’m usually the one who initiates sex, by lying down and spreading my legs. After he licks me to orgasm, I may either feel that I’ve had enough already or I unlock him for sex. After I’ve had another orgasm with him inside me, we cuddle for a while to feel closer to each other. I really enjoy these moments. Once his erection has calmed down, I put the chastity device back on and then we either watch a show together or roll over and fall asleep.
On special occassions I allow him to finish inside me, but I have recently started to tell him to go down on me and clean it up afterwards. Not only does it feel good to be clean again but I also love knowing that he does it just because he wants to please me.
You can decide. I talked to a woman who will only let her boyfriend come when she gives him a blowjob. Her logic is that blowjobs are his favourite and hence, on the rare occasion that he is allowed release, she wants to give him maximum pleasure. Personally, I used to give my husband a lot of blowjobs but since we started chastity I rarely give them anymore because I feel like I don’t have to.
This is the main method I use to make my husband orgasm. You want to make it about you and not him. It’s no longer his orgasm, it’s your game – you’ve got control of the joystick and he’s here for your fun. Here are some ideas to spice things up:
You could give him a handjob but tell him to last at least a certain amount of time. Make sure you’re arousing him as much as possible, be it with sexy underwear or with sexy words. If he doesn’t manage to last long enough, he will be “punished” (you can decide how). A possible “punishment” could be to not stop stroking until the time is up no matter what, for example you tell him to last for at least fifteen minutes, and if he comes too early you will simply keep stroking for the remaining time.
Alternatively, you can give your husband a maximum time, for example, if his last ejaculation was two weeks ago, you could give him no more than two minutes to come. If he doesn’t make it in time, he will be re-locked and you can tell him with a big grin that he was obviously not horny enough and should be locked up a bit longer next time. Some women even “train” their husbands to come as quick as possible, either because they like the feeling of being too hot to handle for him or because he lasts too long and it gets exhausting.
This is when you don’t stop stroking after he ejaculates. When a man orgasms, his glans soon begins feeling extra sensitive and wants to be left alone. If you keep stroking and rubbing his glans he will be overwhelmed by the intense feeling. You may need to restrain his hands before! But don’t worry, what you’re doing is completely harmless, like tickling. It’s just too funny when my husband is asking me to stop stroking his cock.
This is when you stimulate him until just before the “point of no return” and then remove your hand and stop all stimulation. If you time it right, instead of ejaculating in “bursts”, the semen flows effortlessly down the penis – hence they are also misleadingly called “ruined” orgasms. If done correctly, he will still be horny afterwards and will stay hard as a rock, still wanting more, even though he just ejaculated. Touchless orgasms are great when you want to give him an orgasm but still leave him horny when you lock him back up. I found this great article ↗ explaining how to give him a touchless orgasm – some quotes below:
This can be a lot of fun and you can be really creative here. Some ideas:
Keep him guessing. Every single time you touch his penis, he should never know if you intend to tease and deny him, “ruin” him, or give him a normal orgasm. Lie to him. Tell him you’re going to stop, then don’t. Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full orgasm. Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then “change your mind” and stop for the night. This only works if you also sometimes tell the truth.