The Secret to a Happy Marriage 💕


Happy Couples 🔞

This is a long chapter – read as little or as much as you want.

I have talked to many chastity wives and girlfriends, husbands and boyfriends. Below are just some of the millions of couples that practice male chastity. If you would like to be added, just email me, ideally with a photo attached (no face required).

Click on the sections below to read the testimonials.


Testimonials by Women

“The longer he’s locked the better he behaves.”

♀: “I followed the advice of a friend and told my boyfriend I wanted to lock his cock. Since that moment he’s been like another man. More sympathetic, caring, and a great listener. He never forgets to do something I asked. He’s so sweet and romantic now, he does everything I want him to. We took it as play first, and I gave him a weekly handjob to release the tension, although sometimes I ended it with a ruined orgasm. Nowadays the cage goes off very rarely. He’d do anything for a monthly handjob. Or a blowjob if he’s been very good.”


“I keep my high school sweetheart locked.”

♀: “I’m a keyholder and I really enjoy doing it and that makes me really good at it. I like locking my guy’s dick in a chastity cage and being in control of him. He will beg and think about me all day. When I locked his dick for the first time I got addicted to the power instantly. The longer I keep him locked the more I get addicted to it. Fully in charge of his libido, his body, his mind. Best feeling ever. Chastity devices work and it’s great. It’ll make a man super horny when he sees you and you’ll have full control of his sexual pleasure. Highly recommended.”


“I once ‘forgot’ to bring the key when I went on a two-week beach holiday with him.”

♀: “I prefer to think of a caged cock as not emasculated, but restrained – power under control, the way that a dam holds back a river. Or a beast that’s been captured and tamed. That’s what I want to control: a cock that can be a mighty force when needed, but truly desires the refinement of restraint. Chastity as an elevation from beast to man.”


“My sister told me about male chastity. She also keeps her boyfriend locked.”

♀: “Chastity is not a ‘punishment’ for my boyfriend, it’s a reward for being such a sweet boy. I keep him in chastity because I love him. I keep him charged up with frequent teasing.”


“Chastity has made him much nicer and considerate.”

♀: “Male chastity has definitely improved our marriage. Men do not always realize how sex-driven they are. Now that I locked him he has begun to appreciate our daily interactions without the end goal of having sex with me. He has become the romantic lover he used to be at the beginning, who focuses on my desires and needs first rather than just on his urge to get off. I also like that he isn’t masturbating anymore. Rather than wasting time watching porn he now spends more time with me. Ultimately, chastity creates happier couples.”


“We achieved an orgasm ratio of 20 to 1.”

♀: “There’s nothing hotter for me that showing my love to my boyfriend with chastity. I’ve effectively taken his penis off him and put it under my control. He can’t get hard and can’t masturbate anymore unless I say so. He used to take ejaculations for granted, now they are something he’ll have to earn.”


“Chastity revived our dead bedroom.”

♀: “We’ve been married for eight years and have three children, and somehow we ended up at a point where I just wasn’t interested in sex anymore. I also wasn’t happy with his short temper and laziness, maybe that contributed to it. We had sex maybe once a month or even less, and he kept complaining that it wasn’t enough. About six months ago he admitted his desire for chastity and explained how he was masturbating every day. I agreed to hold his key and give him a release every weekend, but under the condition that he’d try and become more affectionate with me and help more with chores and the children. If he’s not behaving well I will skip his weekly orgasm, but if he is good he gets a release (either me giving a handjob or him masturbating next to me). The keys are not kept at home. I keep one at work which I bring home for the weekend if needed, and I gave the other two to my best friend and my sister. I think since we started chastity he’s really improved himself and has become a better husband. There’s more love in our relationship now and as he is transforming himself my sex drive is slowly starting to reappear.”


“Our only regret: not knowing about chastity earlier.”

♀: “If you want a husband who is always attentive, loving, caring, faithful, devoted, polite, and passionate, who tells you every day how much he desires you... try being a chastity wife. What have you got to lose? If it doesn’t work out you can always take the chastity cage off. But I bet after a few days you won’t want to!”


“My favourite thing about chastity is the daily oral sex.”

♀: “I was sceptical at first. My boyfriend was the one who introduced male chastity to me. At first I thought it’s just some sex toy to play around with for a few days and forget about it. But I was wrong. After a while I realized I’m loving this whole chastity thing... In fact I was the one who wanted to keep it going a lot longer than we originally planned.”


“My favourite chastity device is the one with spikes inside to punish erections.”

♀: “I love having this secret with my boyfriend. When we go out while he’s still locked in that cage. Nobody knows. But I can keep teasing him. It’s the little things he does that let me know how very mine he is. It’s his secret frustration that only I can see that really excites me.”


“I want to make every lock-up period longer than the last one.”

♀: “There are so many great things about being a keyholder. Deciding when he can get erect and when he can cum. Knowing that he cannot masturbate when he is alone. The fact he now sits to pee. Sending him pictures of his key around my neck throughout the day, just to remind him who owns his cock. Sitting between his legs and playing with his cage – I love the weight of the metal in my hands and the look of happy agony on his face. Playing with myself while he watches me, locked. Leaving for a weekend trip and not bringing the key. Pegging – this brought an enjoyment to my sex life that I never knew I was missing. Deciding when and how we have sex. Better, more intimate sex. A calmer, cleaner, more romantic partner. A better, more intimate, more loving relationship.”


“His last masturbation was years ago.”

♀: “Do all men play with themselves in the bathroom? Not mine. Now the only thing he’ll be playing with is me. We have become so much closer since I put him in chastity and control his orgasms. The only thing I regret is not starting earlier. Chastity is by far my favourite kink, I’ve embraced it totally and I’ll keep him locked up forever, there is no doubt about that.”


“I told my best friend that I am my husband’s keyholder.”

♀: “Like many wives new to male chastity I quickly discovered, when denied an orgasm of his own, hubby gets obsessed with mine. It’s intimate. It’s lovely. It strengthens the bond between us. And it’s romantic too. To the readers out there: Why not try it this weekend and see what I mean.”


“Being a keyholder has made me feel more confident and attractive.”

♀: “I was always a quite shy, maybe even “prude”. For example, I don’t masturbate. Maybe you won’t believe me but it’s true. It’s not that I don’t have a sex drive – in fact I get horny quite often and I find my husband very attractive. But I was quite insecure about my body. I didn’t want him to look at my vagina and even liked to keep the lights on when we had sex! He bought stuff to spice things up, like a vibrator, but I never dared to use them. Another issue was that my husband needed sex more often than me so I gave him a blowjob about once a week. But actually I hated putting his penis in my mouth, I just did it out of a sense of duty. One day he proposed to try male chastity (because apparently he was STILL masturbating despite my efforts to please him!) and he sent me the link to your website. Long story short: it’s been a few months with him locked in chastity now and our marriage has been transformed. First of all, I’m relieved that I don’t need to give him blowjobs anymore. One night I even told him that I’ll never put his dick anywhere near my mouth again. To my surprise he seemed to get aroused…? Turns out it turns him on when I say stuff like never giving him a blowjob again or making him wait for his next orgasm. However, he’s now always asking to lick me down there! At first, I was too shy and self-conscious to say yes, but the more time I spent being his keyholder the more I saw how attracted he is to me and the more confident I became about my body. Nowadays he licks me regularly. Is it unfair that he gives me oral sex all the time but I deny him the same? It doesn’t matter. I have the key, I decide, and I love it (he does, too). I feel really sexy now. We’ve never been emotionally closer. I love him more than ever. It’s incredible what effect locking his cock had on our relationship!”


“He is only allowed ‘ruined’ orgasms.”

♀: “Here’s a fun fact: Girls who lock up their boyfriends in chastity devices get to have as many orgasms as they want! I’m really glad that I have a clit that I can touch and not just a caged dick like him. Denying him orgasms will also make him want to eat your pussy constantly. Prepare for pleasure overload!”


“She is a ‘size queen’ and loves to make fun of his small penis.”

♀: “I am the one who put him in chastity in the first place because I wanted to explore my dominant side and also keep him pussy-free. He is only allowed to penetrate me while wearing a large cock extender. I don’t find any real living penis attractive, and it doesn’t help that my husband’s is tiny. Sex to me is more about chemistry and love, hence I think chastity is perfect. My husband showed his devotion and love by locking his dick for me. His cage twitches everytime he spoons me. I just love how his dick is getting tight in the cage, but he just cannot do anything about it.”


“I believe that a locked cock is a happy cock.”

♀: “Love your site. My boyfriend brought chastity to our relationship and I love it. I totally and completely control his orgasms and bully his cock leaving him so very frustrated but eager to please me. I thoroughly enjoy the oral sex and he now stays close to pussyfree as he isn’t on his best behavior after PIV sex (this is a development he enjoys). I love seeing him fill his cage up with nowhere to go and feeling his cage press against me knowing he can’t do anything. It’s so empowering and kinky plus he became such a loving devoted partner. We can never go back to him controlling his orgasms and I think all cocks should be caged (if there’s consent of course).”


“We started male chastity after the birth of our third child.”

♀: “Don’t kid yourself, nothing even comes close. If you truly want your husband focused on you, lock him in chastity. My husband has been locked with his orgasms under my control for nearly 5 years, and he is totally devoted to my needs. The most important thing is I’m getting more out of our marriage and from him in every area of life. I’m happier, more content, and more confident.”


“Chastity has helped our relationship.”

♀: “Your website is so inspiring to me! Thanks so much for sharing. Me and my boyfriend were living a long distance relationship and keeping him locked up in a cage has been really bonding and important in the construction of our relationship and connection. My style is softer, let’s put it this way. I really love getting penetrated by dick so we still have a lot of sex. Though he’s not allowed to cum without my permission. The longest time I kept him locked without a release was 21 days so far. He can only masturbate and cum under my supervision and guidance. No porn allowed or any other stimulation that doesn’t come from me.”


“His average lock-up period is 4 months.”

♀: “When he handed over the keys, our sex life was resurrected from the dead. We went from no sex together to more and better sex than when we were first married, all without him experiencing orgasms very often. Besides having better sex, I now have a more caring, attentive husband. We never argue anymore, not even about the household chores or what to watch on TV. He shows me and tells me every day how much he loves me. The chastity devices he wears doesn’t make him do this. It simply ensures he does.”


“I’ve never been more in love with him.”

♀: “Right now my husband has been locked a little over 6 weeks. He’s more attentive to my needs, helps out around the house and with the baby without me even asking or having to tell him, very in tune with my body and my needs, more submissive and less aggressive... the list is endless!”


“I love to be kinky in the bedroom and keep him locked 24/7.”

♀: “Male chastity is very important for me. He is always locked except for cleaning or when I give him a handjob every few weeks. When I unlock him, I expect him to cum in less than a minute, otherwise the cages goes back on. We’ve always been a kinky couple: besides chastity, I really love to slap or kick his balls, which really turns both of us on like nothing else, or peg him with my strap-on, which is a beautiful and intimate way of making him cum without even unlocking him.”


“His longest lock-up period was 6 months and 3 days.”

♀: “At first I didn’t get the appeal of chastity. Now that my husband is in chastity, I’m more attracted to him than ever. It makes him so much hotter. It would be real let down if he wasn’t wearing it. He looks so cute with that little chastity bulge in his underwear. Also, his behaviour has improved significantly. He didn’t realize how often he treated me badly or upset me. Now he’s trying to be a perfect husband.”


“We are in a long-distance relationship and he remains locked when I’m not around.”

♀: “To all the ladies who think their partner is weird for bringing up chastity. Just stop for a second and think. He wants to worship you, he wants to belong to you, he wants to pleasure you, he is willing to suffer for you, he wants to devote himself to your happiness. And he’ll love every second of it. What are you waiting for?”


“I’m his princess and receive oral sex almost daily.”

♀: “In our relationship he brings in most of the money (I only work part-time), he does all the chores at home, he buys me nice things and he showers me with attention. I’m his princess. That’s because he wants to, not because I make him. In the bedroom he always makes sure to satisfy me. I like having sex with him, but I really love getting licked. We have started using a chastity device which is turning me on like crazy. Currently he gets to orgasm once a week, normally a handjob but sometimes a blowjob if I’ve been very happy with him. However, I plan to slowly increase the time between orgasms, from weekly to fortnightly and then to monthly.”


“One of my girlfriends recommended male chastity to me.”

♀: “Male chastity is great for us, it was getting a bit stale in the bedroom. He makes me feel so sexy all the time now. Since I locked his cock up and have no plans to unlock it anytime soon, I guess I’m going to have to endure yet another night of long, boring massages followed by him going down on me until I’ve had enough. Sucks to be me...”


“I want him to get a piercing for 100% security.”

♀: “Agreeing to lock him in chastity was the best decision I ever made... Now he belongs to me and will do anything to please me. I am never going back to the way things used to be, I just wouldn’t be able to live like that again.”


“We discovered male chastity four years ago while watching porn together.”

♀: “I don’t know if long-term male chastity was what my husband REALLY wanted or if it was just a fantasy that turned him on. It doesn’t matter, now it’s my fantasy. Ever since I stopped letting him masturbate, he’s been an amazing husband and he’s given me amazing orgasms. Our sex life has never been better. I’m not giving that up.”


“I will never allow him to masturbate again.”

♀: “Sure, he can still call it ‘his’ cock, but only because it is attached to his body. It isn’t really his anymore, thanks to that little cock cage. He can’t get off, he can’t touch it, and he can’t even get an erection without my permission. That means only I control it. So yes, it’s still his cock, but I own it. It’s the greatest feeling in the world.”


“I’d rather be single than have a partner who’s not willing to be locked by me.”

♀: “Since I have become my boyfriend’s keyholder, I can’t stop touching his package. It’s so gratifying knowing that this most masculine part of his has been tamed and is now totally under my control. There is something truly empowering about it and the thrill of it has never left me.”


“My husband introduced chastity to me, but now I’m the one enjoying it the most.”

♀: “I love keeping my husband in chastity. I believe that masturbation is a form of cheating, and a little bit insulting. I should be everything he needs. So for me it makes perfect sense to lock him up. Once he got a bit desperate and begged me to unlock him, promising he won’t masturbate anymore. So I said, if you don’t do it, then you shouldn’t care about the chastity cage. He had to agree. And now it stays on until I want sex, which is about once or twice a week. It also makes love-making more special when he has to wait and earn it. He’s so eager for that. We have a great relationship.”


“When he brought up chastity for the first time, I loved the idea immediately.”

♀: “I lock the front door when I leave the house. I lock my car after I park it. Why shouldn’t I keep my man’s dick locked up when I don’t need it? Ladies, if you like it, put a lock on it.”


“I want to tell my girlfriends that I am my boyfriend’s keyholder.”

♀: “It’s amazing how much a man’s personality and mood improves once his penis is under your control. It’s not just the usual stuff, like him wanting to please you more, both in and out of the bedroom. I also noticed how he has become less aggressive, more joyful, and more content in general. He used to get angry easily when something wasn’t going his way, but this childish behavior has stopped permanently after the first few months of chastity. He has really grown up and matured, and now he is more attractive in every way. I love him so much.”


“We are going to buy his ‘forever’ device, a custom-made titanium cage.”

♀: “I don’t want him thinking about other girls. Chastity ensures he only thinks about me! At first, I was apprehensive, but the truth is that I love being the main character in his every fantasy.”


“I left the key at my place of work to avoid the temptation of unlocking him too early.”

♀: “We have played with male chastity on and off for a couple of years now. But whenever I unlock him for sex or a handjob I am too timid to tell him to lock back up afterwards, and I guess he is not in the mood after cumming because he never takes the initiative either. So he ends up remaining unlocked for a while until one of us brings up chastity again and we start over. I read your website (after my boyfriend asked me to) and I have decided to be “serious“ this time. I told him we’re going for three months without unlocking, just like you recommend. It’s only been two weeks so far but I can already see a big difference in his attitude. I’m really excited to do the whole three months. I can’t stop teasing him, knowing he won’t have a release for many more weeks.”


“I let him have an orgasm for every ten of mine.”

♀: “Locking my boyfriend in chastity was the best decision I ever made. He is more caring, puts me first, and has more sexual energy than ever before! Keeping him in a chastity cage makes me happy.”


“I want him to get a Prince Albert piercing to make the device escape-proof.”

♀:“Women always want a guy to treat her like a queen. All they got to do is lock a guy up! Holding that little key will improve any relationship. He will care more about your needs and wants before his own, he will be willing to please you all of the time. I love the control over him that chastity gives me. With his cock locked away, I don’t have to worry about keeping him satisfied or giving him sex when I’m not in the mood. This ability to decide what I want to do with my body is very liberating.”


“I was sceptical about chastity at first, until I saw how he started paying me attention.”

♀: “When he told me about his masturbation, I was kind of shocked. Almost daily is not healthy for any person or relationship. Chastity put a stop to it. I told him orgasms are a reward now if he does good going down on me and taking care of my needs. I like having more control over our sex lives and more focus on me. I enjoy my pleasure coming first and how he worships me. Being his sole source of orgasm is a power trip. The craziest thing is I want sex more than ever since he’s been in the device.

Rather than sex still being penis-centric it’s now all about my pussy’s pleasure. The chastity cage has led to cunnilingus on demand and the use of more toys to achieve deeper, better penetration. Our foreplay can now include hours of pussy eating or him using a big dildo on me. I bought him a spiked cage – it’s so sexy just hearing him moan from the frustration and the spikes digging a little. Now, when he’s released he uses a cock extender on me and his orgasm isn’t guaranteed. It’s funny because that’s how it used to be for me, but he’s learned what I knew – that it’s not about the orgasm, it’s about the connection. I love the girth and length of the cock extender, it feels better. The idea of him knowing his release for orgasm is dependent on my orgasm and seeing his eagerness to please me is also very hot.

It’s starting to dawn on him that he doesn’t decide if he cums anymore. Right now our goal is to bump our orgasm ratio up from 4:1 to 10:1 and eventually higher. On your site you mention men fantasize about chastity, but it ends up being different – I think that’s starting to happen for us. But I’m not going back to him masturbating behind my back ever, those days are done. This new lifestyle is literally a fantasy for me, he stopped masturbating and porn use, in return I get to feel like the sexiest woman ever and we get more passionate, intimate sex.

In our emotional and shared life he is more attentive and caring, he’s better about helping with chores, he remembers more and is more alert to different things, he is getting in even better shape and spends more time with me. He also gives me massages, kisses and cuddles without expectations of release. In that sense I think he’s become a better man and partner. I don’t boss him, the cage just made him better, more loving and more productive. Before he was good about stuff but now he’s like Superman. My friends were shocked by his change in personality and wondering what our secret is! I told two of my friends about chastity and our orgasm ratio and they can’t believe I orgasm more than him and were definitely intrigued. One of my friends also locked her man after she saw your site and saw how my experience has progressed. I’m so happy he brought chastity into our lives, I’m certain this dynamic can be long-term. I think all women would benefit from using the cage.”

Update from him (1.5 years later): ♂: “We currently stand at a 150 to 1 orgasm ratio. There are accidents now and then because I’m so sensitive when I’m out of the cage, but the punishment for that is a tease session while I’m wearing the spiked cage, which I love and hate at the same time. We have explored more toys and found these things I can wear over my dick that really prevents sensation so we can have sex like normal, it’s just more pleasureable for her and then I’m back in chastity. I eagerly lock back up at her command because she’s my queen and she knows when I need an orgasm. She makes sure to use a vibrator on my cage now and then and I always thank for these ruined orgasms in chastity.”


“I’ve got hundreds of photos of his locked penis saved on my phone.”

♀: “Even simple things like kissing and cuddling together, with him locked in chastity, can be fun. If you’re a “vanilla” woman reading this: Go on, try it tonight. We are physically intimate far more frequently than we were at any other time in our marriage. And despite this he’s had fewer orgasms than ever.”


“He gets rewarded one release for every ten times he hits the gym.”

♀: “Chastity is the second-best thing that ever happened to me, after meeting him of course. It taught him to focus on pleasing me. It made him a better, stronger man, and a better boyfriend. I genuinely prefer his dick caged. Chastity has been a gift.”


“Our sex life has never been better.”

♀: “I read your website after my fiancé sent me the link and after thinking about it for a while I agreed to try out male chastity. Now we have sex whenever I want (rather than every single time he’s horny) and we stop once I’ve had my orgasm and then I lock him back up afterwards so he doesn’t get to finish. I don’t want to take the pill and he hates condoms so you could say this is our way of birth control. I have put him on a weekly orgasm schedule. Every weekend I get my boobs out and allow him to masturbate in front of me for five minutes. I know that you recommend longer times between orgasms but I think once a week works well for us, at least for now. Although I am considering not unlocking him for a whole month before our wedding!”


“We discovered chastity before we got married and he remained locked throughout our honeymoon.”

♀: “I love feeling his cage up against me as he cuddles me to sleep, but mostly I love not having to consider his need for orgasm anymore. I love knowing that he can’t masturbate anymore, that he can’t think about other women, that he can’t cheat on me, and that all of his sexual energy is focused on me.”


“Every modern woman should try out male chastity.”

♀: “I don’t understand how modern concepts such as gay marriage or transsexuality are now openly acknowledged and accepted, but male chastity is still so hush-hush. Millions of chastity cages have been sold! It’s up to us keyholding girlfriends and chaste boyfriends to bring the benefits of chastity – greater intimacy, better relationships, reduced masturbation – out of the shadows. The thrill of holding a man’s key is something I never experienced before and I wouldn’t want to give it up again. Maybe I’ll release him tomorrow, maybe I’ll make him wait another week. Or maybe a month, or even a year? I’m the only one who knows.”


“We are trying for a baby – but he only gets unlocked when I’m ovulating.”

♀: “I like to keep all my valued possessions safe and locked away, and that includes his cock. It helps him keep focused on me and stops him wasting hours and hours on masturbation. This in turn means that he’s more productive and thus I’m helping him have added value in his life.”


“At first I thought chastity was a silly idea – but now there’s no way I’m going back.”

♀: “It’s incredible how much his attitude has changed for the better since I am his keyholder. For example, when I ask him to do something, he actually does it. There’s no arguing like there used to be. He’s so attentive to my needs now. He wants to make sure I’m alright all the time. If there’s anything I want or need he’s willing to provide it. His selfish days seem to be over. And when it comes to sex, he’s so focused on pleasing me. My sex life has never been this good. He’s allowed about two orgasms a month, and why would I agree to him having more, when I’ve never been happier? If anything I’ve been thinking we might experiment with fewer orgasms for him. His penis always seems to strain in its cage when I talk about keeping him locked up for longer anyway.”


“He is currently on a two-month release schedule.”

♀: “What I like most is the fact that my man seems to be more attentive to me. Like helping me and doing things normally would be like pulling teeth. I can tell a huge difference in his attitude when he’s locked and when he’s not. He’s much more supportive and will ask things like ‘what can I do to make your day easier?’ Plus the fact he goes crazy when it’s time to unlock, and basically ravages me.”


“I enjoy getting oral sex whenever I feel like it.”

♀: “I think that chastity is often raised by men, especially chronic masturbators, who secretly want more attention to their penis. And that usually doesn’t work, because women already think they are paying too much attention to his penis. So when chastity takes hold and works, it’s the woman who gets more attention, not the penis.”


“He mentioned chastity on our first date.”

♀: “The difference in his attitude is like night and day when he is locked. The first couple of days can sometimes be challenging as he adjusts but then he is so much more attentive and generally lovely to have around. He goes out of his way to help out around the house and make sure my needs are met. That little device makes him a much better partner, and I’ve told him repeatedly that he’s 100% made for chastity. It just makes him more balanced and happy in himself. His releases are now few and far between and we are working towards reducing them more.”


“I prefer my vibrator on most days.”

♀: “I’m still fairly new to this world, my boyfriend introduced me to it. It was his kink turned into ours. The longest I’ve let him go without orgasm is a month, and I’m starting to feel like I should prolong it more. After a few days of being locked up, he becomes extra affectionate and horny and all that, which I love. I want to take it to the next step and go longer.”


“I used to lock my previous boyfriend, too.”

♀: “There are many reasons why boys should be caged. They’ll be more responsive to your wants and needs. They’ll be more productive themselves, not having to be concerned about masturbating. He’ll always be thinking of you and always knows that you are the center of his pleasure. He’ll learn the difference between wanting to cum and needing to cum. And finally, it’s just so hot to know he can’t get off without your permission.”


“I locked my boyfriend after he sent me the link to your website.”

♀: “I just love knowing that he wakes up every morning aroused, longing for me, with those full and aching balls, and knowing that without my key, there’s nothing he can do about it. This is only the beginning of our journey.”


“We are currently doing ‘Locktober’ followed by ‘No Nut November’.”

♀: “Since my boyfriend agreed to have his (my) cock locked up, I have become more interested in having sex with him. When and if we are to have sex is totally up to me. He has learned to never ask to be unlocked. There is now a very special loving bond between us.”


“We went on a long holiday together without bringing the key.”

♀: “Male chastity has become our favourite kind of sexual play. In it I found my true power as a woman. Teasing is one of my favourite activities. He gets nothing, just more horny, and I can still cum if I want to. When I unlock him he puts all his energy into sex. When I leave him caged, he is focusing on his body, getting fit. I love keeping him locked up, it’s so damn sexy! He currently has been locked for about five months with short breaks.”


“Sex is about my pleasure now.”

♀: “When my husband brought up chastity, I just loved the idea from day one. He spends most of the time caged, but I still unlock him when I want him, he just doesn’t get to cum when we have sex and the ring behind his balls stays on. We're done when I am done and then he is going back into chastity right after. He has gotten used to staying locked in chastity with no release expectations.”


“I believe that masturbation is cheating.”

♀: “We have been playing around with chastity for about a year now. Once, I even went back to my home country without him for a few weeks and took the key with me. I really enjoy having control over his orgasms. He loves it, too. My fantasy is to also prohibit any unpermitted erections. I ordered a metal cage with spikes that will discourage erections in the cage. It should arrive in a few days and I am really excited to try it out.”


“I wear the key on a necklace but nobody has ever asked me what it’s for.”

♀: “I love how he doesn’t get hard anymore without my permission. When he gets horny he just strains inside his cage, it’s honestly beautiful and I kind of want to keep him like this forever. It’s really nice just holding his package, all locked up tight, no mess, no hard dick moving around all weird, just a nice compact package. It throbs to let me know how much it appreciates my touch. It’s so comforting to know I turn him on that much and no one else can.”


“In the past he used to get off every day while I rarely had an orgasm – now it’s the other way round!”

♀: “Our story started with a “libido mismatch”. My husband wanted sex every day whereas I would’ve been fine doing it like once a month. As a result he would masturbate every single day. I wasn’t aware of it until one day he mentioned it in passing. You can’t imagine how upset I was, imagining him wanking and watching porn every day! I felt like he had been cheating on me! Anyway, I was googling for some advice and somehow stumbled upon your website. I thought chastity was a bit crazy but that it might actually work for us and also that I could get “revenge” by denying him orgasms. He’s always been a bit kinky (for example he is really into “eating my ass”), and indeed he was really enthusiastic when I mentioned chastity cages and he bought one the next day. He didn’t have any pain or issues after wearing it (with breaks) for a few weeks, so I decided to start with the recommended lock-up period of three months. That was almost a year ago. He’s been locked 24/7 – on the rare occasions when I take the device off I make sure to put it back on immediately afterwards. Our relationship is so much better now. I can be sure he doesn’t masturbate anymore, in fact now he can’t even get an erection without my permission! I feel so much more confident as a woman. He appreciates me more, now that I’m the only person who can give him sexual pleasure. I have become more sexually active myself and I’m putting my pleasure first now. I love it when he goes down on me and we have bought a large strap-on that he now wears during sex. We recently bought a smaller version of the same chastity cage as we’ve noticed his penis is “adapting” to the erection ban and is getting smaller, which I find really hot for some reason (although when I do allow him an erection it’s still the same size). Chastity has had so many positive effects on our relationship and how he appreciates and treats me that even my friends have started to notice. I’ve told my best friends about chastity and one of them has been so fascinated with it that she’s now trying to convince her husband!”


“We recently discovered the joys of male chastity.”

♀: “Chastity is fun for both of us. He doesn’t get to cum anymore but will pleasure me any time I want. I like to unlock him for a little bit of edging and teasing before putting his dick back into the cage. This year we’ve been doing Locktober and No Nut November. He’s so horny he can’t hold his precum in and is leaking through his cage, which I really love. It’s such a turn-on seeing his dick locked in the little chastity cage. It just seems to be where it belongs. I love keeping him locked up – and he has no choice but to like it!”


“He only had two accidental ejaculations during sex – the first one was forgiven, the second one punished with a knee to the balls.”

♀: “I love knowing that his dick is mine, I love using it as my sex toy, and I love making him go down on me and clean me up after sex if I allow him to cum inside. When we have sex, I either push him off once I orgasm or I give him a minute to finish. When we started with chastity his orgasm allowance was once a month and since then it has been gradually reduced. This year he got six orgasms and next year it will be lower, in fact since we are getting married in six months, I have set his allowance to zero until the wedding. To avoid any accidents, I plan to only let him give me oral sex until then.”


“I want to limit him to two or three orgasms next year.”

♀: “Originally I brought up the idea of locking him in a chastity device because we were going to different unis and only seeing each other on the weekends, and I really loved the idea that he wouldn’t be able to masturbate and could only cum inside me. Chastity is a promise of loyalty and show of respect, it touches my heart. I am lovingly taking care of his dick for for him and keep it safe from his over-eager hands. I appreciate his chastity and all the things he does for me. He only wants to make me happy and my pleasure is his pleasure. For him, chastity is a huge sacrifice in the name of love. It’s all for us. I let him know all the time how much I love him. And when I give him just a little of the love and attention he deserves, it comes back to me tenfold. I now prefer keeping him locked most of the time and get to enjoy his eager oral service, which he’s becoming really good at. I am grateful that he allowed me to bring male chastity into our relationship, because it has improved it so much. We are closer now than ever. I wouldn’t want to go back.”


“I love having the control over his penis.”

♀: “When a man is able to masturbate and orgasm any time he likes, it can become a problem for the relationship. Playing with himself instead of paying attention to his wife, family or work. Male masturbation is a waste of time and not to mention, it’s is gross. So, a chastity device can be a solution. I keep my husband locked because I know that he will otherwise, like all guys, watch porn or masturbate. And I won’t allow it. In fact I think it’s a form of cheating. My experience is that he (probably like all men) doesn’t have enough self-control to stop masturbating on his own. But now that he is locked, he isn’t able to! I don’t care much about denying him orgasms, it’s fine if he orgasms during sex, but I just don’t want him wasting his orgasm on himself.”


“He has been locked for almost half a year without break.”

♀: “I don’t think our relationship has ever been this exciting and sexy. I get satisfied as often as I want while he only gets more frustrated and more eager to please. Sometimes I get aroused just when I think about how long I’ve been denying him. I think about how easy it would be to unlock him and just pull on his dick a few times, but then I remember that chastity was his idea, not mine.”


“We live in different cities and can only see each other on weekends The chastity device helped.”

♀: “I wanted to thank you for your website which has greatly helped us as a couple. I gladly keep my boyfriend locked. It’s not that I don’t trust him, but I don’t trust other women, so this is a good way to keep him safe. I don’t mind that he can’t jerk off either. It keeps him more eager for my sexual needs.”


“His longest lock-up period was three months.”

♀: “My boyfriend introduced me to male chastity on our second date and I agreed to lock him on the third one. I think it’s funny how everyone thinks he gets to fuck me regularly, but actually he has never put his penis inside me, not even once. He just gets to lick me all the time, and when I unlock him, which happens rarely, he will just get a two-finger handjob. We’re both very happy with this arrangement.”


“It was his idea, but now I like chastity the most.”

♀: “He’s locked up more often than he’s ever hoped for. I really enjoy seeing him in the cage and how he is getting increasingly desperate to cum. I’ll let him out to play sometimes, but it’s completely on my terms. I also love playing with myself in front of him. Chastity has not only spiced up our sex life but now he’s also become better boyfriend who takes care of all my needs.”


“I like how he focuses on me when we have sex now.”

♀: “Male chastity has been such a great thing for our relationship. I love the feeling of control and power, and how he’s trying his best to please me. He hasn’t touched his dick for a long time and he can’t even get hard unless I unlock him. I love rubbing my ass on his cage to frustrate him, and I love it when he eats me while I ignore his little cock. We just got this new tiny cage and I want to see if he can handle it for a whole month.”


“We are a modern couple using a modern contraception method.”

♀: “We agreed that we don’t want any more kids. Originally he had scheduled a vasectomy, but then we realised that it’s been months since he last came inside me, so we cancelled the appointment. When we have penetrative sex, we always use a strap-on dildo and he remains locked. Trust me a good dildo feels much better than your husband’s dick ever could, and never spurts too fast! He agrees that since his dick doesn’t have a purpose now, it might as well be locked up forever. I love him so much.”


“It may look like I’ve got all the power, but actually I’m just fulfilling his wildest fantasies.”

♀: “We’re new to chastity. He sent me your website a couple of months ago and it took me a while to wrap my head around it. At the beginning I just played along to please him, but now actually I think I’m the one enjoying it more. For me, the chastity cage is a symbol of love. He loves being locked and I love being his perfect keyholder. It’s so sexy seeing him horny and desperate when I tease him, while I can masturbate anytime I want.”


“Doesn’t being in this cage make him so much more presentable?”

♀: “It’s so beautiful how a little cage locked around his cock can provide so much pleasure for me. He willingly sacrifices his physical pleasure so that he can focus on enhancing mine, and I know he is grateful for the opportunity. It’s so sexy reminding him that his caged cock is mine. I wonder if I should just throw away the key and keep him pussy-free forever? Pegging my caged hubby while he’s locked makes both of us super horny, so he can just learn to cum like that.”


“I only use his dick for my own pleasure.”

♀: “I love keeping him locked up. I love how he doesn’t get hard anymore, when he gets horny he can’t do anything about it, it’s honestly beautiful and I kind of want to keep him like this forever. I love putting my hand into his pants and feeling the tight package, sometimes a bit wet from pre-cum as he’s so horny. It’s so comforting to know I turn him on that much and nobody else can.”


“Our relationship has become stronger and sexier.”

♀: “He said that the cock cage is a constant reminder that I own his cock, even when I’m not around. Every time he’s sexually aroused, he feels the confinement of the cage and thinks about me. I believe that chastity has created a deep bond between us and he has become completely devoted to me because he depends on me for sexual release. After 30 days in the cock cage I reward him with a quick handjob after which he goes back in the cage.”


“My boyfriend used to masturbate to other girls’ pictures – but not anymore!”

♀: “Me and my boyfriend started our journey mainly because I’ve always felt that he could do a better job with his hands than having vaginal sex, and the idea of having him locked also turns me on a lot. He has so much desire when he is locked, it’s amazing! One key point that I’ve found during this journey is that consistency is key if I want to keep him happy while caged. The other day, he behaved so well that I decided to give him a handjob. This has been a hell of a journey, but both of us are enjoying it. I’m happy that I’m in control and he is happy that I take the lead.”


“You don’t need to be into femdom to enjoy male chastity.”

♀: “My husband and I have been interested in chastity for a few years, but we didn’t make it a lifestyle until two years ago. We honestly couldn’t be happier. We have much more sex and intimacy than ever before, and our relationship (while always solid) has grown and become even stronger. It’s an amazing journey when you both embrace it and enjoy the ride.”


“He loves the loss of control and feeling more and more horny and desperate.”

♀: “Chastity revealed the trust he has in me, to offer me complete control of his cock and orgasms, and it just makes me melt. The fact that he is constrained and frustrated every single day as a reminder of my domination over him is beyond hot. The fact that he pretty much always wants to touch me makes me feel cared for and protected. Watching his rare orgasms (which are very, very intense) is really hot as well. His sexuality since removing his cock from the equation has evolved so much and our sex life has never been better.”


“Since my husband is caged our lives have totally changed for the better.”

♀: “We have been together for over 20 years, 10 years of marriage. Our sex life was good, but since we discovered this, it has been amazing. I was really sceptical at first, but I love the power that it gives me over him. It brings out a “bad” side of me that I never knew I had. We even started sexting, something I never wanted to do before. I love the attention that my husband gives me now, and that I am on his mind 24/7. He wants to please me in every way that I want, and even gives me massages whenever I want it. I love to tease him, but then he gets (almost) nothing in return. I’m curious where this is going, and I love every second of it!”


Testimonials by Men

“Chastity transformed our relationship and helped us through difficult times.”

♂: “Hi Ella! Your website had a big influence on my wife and me. We toyed around with chastity because she didn’t want me to watch porn and masturbate without her, but it was only after reading your website that we really understood how chastity could improve our relationship. Now we live in a 24/7 chastity relationship and both of us love it. She always likes to grab my groin because she likes to feel that I’m still locked.

I decided to write an erotic story based on our chastity journey. 90% of it is true and the rest is just small detail changes to improve the narrative flow. I am selling it an eBook, but if you want, you can also publish it on your website, as a thank you from us. (By the way my wife didn’t want me to send a real picture of us, but this looks similar to her.)”

Locked by Minji: How my Korean girlfriend became my keyholder.
Buy as an eBook on Amazon (67 pages) ↗ or read the story here on this website.

“Since we started our chastity journey, I got the motivation to lose weight.”

♂: “I love the constant ache of desire. I literally ache for my girlfriend – she is on my mind most of the time. Having no control over my orgasms has been a huge turn-on, knowing she has all of the power over her toy. I love how she teases. I do not like being denied during a play session, but after I have calmed down, I thank her for not allowing me to cum. We have grown so much closer since starting chastity. We communicate better, in everyday normal life, and in the bedroom.”


“My longest period without orgasm so far is 12 weeks, but her aim is 12 months.”

♂: “I love being locked in chastity by my wonderful wife. But chastity is not just about the teasing and attention you’re going to get. It’s about devotion, it’s about surrendering yourself to the woman you love, every minute of every hour of every day. The chastity device is just a beautiful reminder of that commitment. I really don’t know how I got this lucky. My wife loves and appreciates me and there’s no word that can sum up how positively I feel about her and how much I adore her.”


“Since she locked me I have not once been allowed to masturbate.”

♂: “I am an independent person, but a part of me wants to belong. To belong with someone, to belong to a significant other. To be hers. With the cage she tells me: I love you and I want you to be mine. With the cage I tell her: I love you and I am yours alone. I enjoy knowing that only she can play with my cock and that it is safely put away when she doesn’t.”


“She wants to leave me locked when she gets pregnant.”

♂: “To all the men out there considering chastity, I can tell you: Yeah, it is called chastity cage but that name is somewhat misleading. Actually, you’ll be having lots of sex. Mostly it’ll be in your mind. Or oral sex that you’ll be providing. And none of this will let you cum. But you’ll definitely have lots of sex.”


“We have experimented with chastity for years. His longest lock-up was 375 days.”

♂: “First, I would like to thank you, I found your website in a Reddit post, and I'm blown away by it. My wife and I have been playing on and off with chastity for 8 years. We started strong, but it flickered off. Her mom and sister know about me being locked up, which I was upset about initially, but now it's rather hot. Her sister even had her necklace with my key on New Year’s Eve a few years ago and teased me with it all night, and she ended up having it for three days after. Her mom always jokes about how her daughter has all the power and control in our house. After reading your page, I sent it to my wife, and we have decided to start over. We are going to stay unlocked for the weekend and start fresh with the recommendations from your page on Monday. Thank you again for your page, and we look forward to seeing how our new life changes after reading it!”


“We have thirty times more sex than before chastity.”

♂: “When we had our children, we had little time and privacy for sex. I don’t think my wife was in the mood anyway. We had sex maybe once a month at most. I coped with the situation by masturbating a lot, at least once a day. I don’t think she ever really realized what I was doing, because she was very surprised when one day I introduced chastity to her, in order to stop my masturbation addiction. Now, our sex life is much different and much better. Every night when the kids are in bed, I go down on her, which I enjoy a lot. She allows me a release every two weeks on average, usually by giving me a nice slow blowjob. One could think it’s unfair that she gets so many more orgasms than me, but we agree it’s only fair given my thousands of excess orgasms from my years of secret masturbation.”


“I am thankful for her open-mindedness.”

♂: “I have never been a kinky person per se, but I have been interested in chastity for a long time. I was always afraid of asking my wife because I thought she would reject me. When I finally asked her, I can’t say she was very eager, but she said ok let’s try it at least. Now, two years later, she’s super into it and I couldn’t be happier being with her. I think the biggest thing my wife got was relief from whatever sense of “duty” she might have had. Knowing that I am locked also eliminated her guilt about “needing” to fuck me, eliminated the need for duty sex. She is happy to supervise my masturbation every few months or give me handjob.”


“Chastity has saved this marriage.”

♂: “I love the feeling of being locked and knowing that my wife holds the key. It’s like being newlyweds again. I love it when she touches herself knowing I can’t. I love it when she tells me my penis belongs to her. I love that she decides when it gets to be touched, when it gets to get hard, and when it gets to cum. I’ve never had fewer orgasms. I’ve never done more housework. At the same time, and I can’t believe this is how it actually works out, I have never been more in love with her, and I have never been more content with my position in life.”


“Our relationship suffered from my porn addiction.”

♂: “I realized that I was masturbating too much, pretty much every day. As a result, I was not really interested in sex anymore when my girlfriend would be in the mood. I often was unable to finish during sex and sometimes even struggled to stay hard. Something had to change. After some back and forth, we decided that it would be a good idea to try chastity to stop my masturbation. Now, I only get to cum when we have sex, which is about twice a week. My performance really has improved. Once she unlocks me I am hard as a rock and ready to go. Best of all, my “porn brain“ is finally disappearing! I used to think about porn scenes to stay hard during sex, but now just seeing my girlfriend in panties makes me throb.


“I used to masturbate every day since I was 12.”

♂: “The most erotic thing I have ever done was to put my cock in a cage and give my girlfriend the key. No amount of wanking will beat that. She enjoys when I please her and she doesn’t feel she has to please me. She decides when to let me out to have sex with her, and it is always after I first give her an orgasm.”


“We are a happy couple and my chastity is part of it. We recently got engaged.”

♂: “I am the luckiest man in the world. How many guys could say their girlfriends care enough about what they do with their cocks to keep them safely locked up like she does to me? I am thankful to her every day.”


“I’ve been a selfish lover – until now!”

♂: “For us this journey started when my wife and me got drunk one night and she admitted that she thought I was on the small side down there. I was hurt and we had a big fight. But after things calmed down I came to accept that she was factually right. She never cums during sex, only when I go down on her or when she uses a vibrator. Over the coming weeks I started to eroticize my shortcomings and asked her to lock me in a chastity cage. She agreed and yesterday we bought a cage together. For her, not much will change as she never needed my dick in the first place. For me, it means focusing more on her needs from now on. We decided that for every ten orgasms of hers I am allowed to get one release, to make up for all the years of putting myself first.”


“My longest time without release was two months.”

♂: “Hey Ella, I just wanted to tell you thanks for convincing my wife of the benefits of a chastity piercing. I will get a PA next week and then order a new cage to go with it. She is not a fan of piercings, but agrees that it’s the best (or only?) way to make sure I can’t pull out of the cage or cheat on her in any way. I’ve been locked in chastity for a year or so (with semi-regular releases) but at the back of my mind I always knew that if I really wanted to, I could pull out, masturbate, and possibly get my dick back in without the key. Not that I ever did, but mentally it’s a big difference knowing there is no way to get off with a piercing.”


“I feel naked without the chastity device.”

♂: “My wife brought up chastity on our second date. She said she read about it online and really wanted to try it. I didn’t immediately sign up for it, but she managed to convince me eventually. I am glad she did. We’ve been doing chastity for many years now. We’re currently trying to go for a whole year without release for me. I know it sounds crazy, but I absolutely love it and I absolutely love her. I could never imagine a life without her.”


“For me, male chastity is an expression of my love and it brought romance back into our relationship.

♂: “I want to make her happy. In the bedroom, her pleasure is my pleasure. I want to give her all the pleasure she desires, and only receive the pleasure which pleases her. I love it when she takes the time to tease and deny me. Sometimes I am weak or selfish, but I get through because I am safely locked up. I thank her for holding the keys. My chastity is indefinite, only her desire and not time can release me. My chastity is not a sentence, I am in chastity because it makes me happy as a person and as a man. I am not submissive and I do not want to obey her or to be disciplined by her, but I do crave giving her all the pleasure I am capable of and feeling the cage around my penis, as a representation of her loving hand.”


“My longest time without release was two months.”

♂: “One night when we were a bit drunk we started talking about sexuality and I confessed to my wife that I’m into chastity and her having full control over my orgasm. This got her super hot and we ordered a cage the same evening. When it arrived she was indifferent about being the key holder at first. But when she realized that she would always be satisfied and not have to reciprocate, she was all in. She says she loves how empowering it is for her and how I am more helpful around the house and now not just prefers me to be caged, but insists on it!”


“My penis has been ‘retired’.”

♂: “It finally happened. My girlfriend had been teasing me for a while that she’s got no use for my dick anymore, because my tongue and her dildo are all she needs. We had a big fight yesterday because of something I did and in her anger she ended up flushing the keys down the toilet... Today she apologized for her “overreaction” but that doesn’t bring the keys back lol. I have mixed feelings. It’s both scary and arousing. I think most men who are into chastity have at some point fantasized about being locked up forever. I introduced chastity to her over two years ago and we both came to love it, in fact I even got a PA piercing last year. But I’ve rarely gone longer than a month without an orgasm. She’s now making jokes that I shouldn’t worry about permanent chastity because I’m really good at giving oral, and she reminded me that once I even ejaculated without any physical stimulation while licking her (because her pussy aroused me so much), so she concludes all is well and we don’t need the keys anymore... But I think the new reality hasn’t sunken in yet for both of us.”

Update: “It's now been almost a month since the flushing incident and she admitted to me that she actually has a replacement key which she sent to her sister who lives in France. She said she wanted to gauge my reaction to the possibility of permanent chastity and that I passed the test. She has not yet asked her sister to send the key back, but I am relieved to know that there is another key somewhere.”


“She says every wife should consider chastity; she can’t see a single downside.”

♂: “Chastity play was originally my idea, but now it’s my wife who’s obsessed with keeping me locked in chastity. She says she loves how it keeps me loyal and horny all the time, always attentive and thinking of her, and she really enjoys the constant oral sex I give her. We have a lot of sex with her getting off with toys, oral and my fingers. I am locked 365 days a year, 24/7, unless she wants me out (and for cleaning under her supervision). I am not allowed to masturbate and can only orgasm when she gives me an occasional handjob. She decided that I should not have an orgasm more than once a month. She was also adamant that once a month was the maximum and she would decide if and when I would get a chance to cum. The spacing is random and I never know in advance when it’ll be. She likes the control and seeing me very horny. I love the denial aspect. She will set a timer for anything between 10 seconds or 1 minute and that’s all the time I get. It’s so hot how she just stops when the timer goes off. She also has the policy that I must be wearing a condom, to add to the dynamic and because she doesn’t want me to make a mess.”


“I used to masturbate at least once a day but now I get a release every fortnight at most.”

♂: “I bought my first chastity device a couple of months ago after begging her for a while to try it. It’s been a really intense, sexy experience so far. She’s only allowed me to have sex with her once and I only lasted a few seconds which she took as a compliment. I’m extremely horny whenever I see or touch her. The other day she told me to lick her out and I leaked a lot inside the chastity cage, so she said it counts as an orgasm (replacing my next scheduled one) even though it left me hornier than ever. She told me she’s really enjoying our chastity experience so far and that I’ve become a nicer boyfriend and have been treating her much better. Yesterday she even encouraged me to get a piercing and a “proper” long-term cage, and warned me that if I went through with the piercing I’d be in chastity all the time.”


“I like that he can’t get an erection in the cage.”

♂: “I brought up chastity to my girlfriend and she kind of freaked out at first, not knowing why would I want such a thing. After talking about it a few times and explaining what I was looking for, she decided to give it a try. Now, for the past few months I’ve been locked up and if she wants to feel me in her she’ll take it off but she won’t let me finish at all and has me lock back up. Now she is realizing how much power she has. I haven’t asked her if she’ll let me have a release, nor will I since I’m enjoying this way too much to care.”


“I give her oral sex multiple times a week.”

♂: “My wife had told me a few weeks ago that she was ready to be my keyholder, and finally put a stop to me jerking off and cumming without her. I managed to find a cage that I can wear comfortably for extended periods. Last weekend she unlocked me for PIV sex and announced that it would be my last orgasm for at least 3 months because she wants to try the initial lock up you recommend. After I finished inside her, she rolled over, grabbed the cage and said “it’s time to lock up.” She has her mind set on going for a long-term lockup with absolutely no unlocking and no orgasms for me. I love her so much.”


“Chastity is our way of birth control.”

♂: “About three years ago when I shared a bottle of wine with my wife, I gathered the courage to tell her about my interest in being locked. She was receptive but when she saw the cage I had bought she said: “I know your dick is small but will it really fit in this?” I think she was a bit nervous and so the cage stayed in the wardrobe until a few days later, when she told me to put it on while she went to have a shower. When she came out she said that I look hot wearing it and the idea of being my keyholder turns her on a lot. Still, the cage remained an occasional play toy that would go back into the wardrobe after a few weeks of me being locked. It only changed when my wife was pregnant and asked me to wear the cage once our child was born when she would not be able to have sex post-partum. I ended up enduring 2 months locked without complaining, until she one day decided to give me a surprise blowjob (I came within seconds). After that 2-month long stretch – my longest so far – my wife decided that she liked controlling my orgasms and how affectionate it made me and that there wouldn’t be any set release dates – only she would know when I am allowed to come. Starting this year, she wants me to wear my cage 24/7 for the entire year except when she wants me released, and we’ll discuss how the year went at the end. She also informed me that chastity is the new normal for me and she intends to break my previous 2-month no-orgasm record.”


“I’m 100% sure she told her girlfriends about my predicament but she refuses to confirm or deny it.”

♂: “My girlfriend just got into chastity play. I introduced her to it and she was 100% into it from the start, I’m not going to lie, it kind of terrifies me but in a good way. She’s had me locked for two weeks already with no end in sight. I’m currently typing this locked up while she is away over the weekend to attend a bachelorette party.”


I’m indefinitely locked in chastity by my wife and I’m so proud of her.”

♂: “When I introduced her to male chastity, she was a little bit worried but also intrigued. That night we had a really fun time. I ate her out until she came, and then she unlocked me and we had really great sex. As time passed, we got more accustomed to chastity outside of the bedroom and to longer periods of me being denied. We were still having sex on a weekly basis, but there were times when I just ate her out and she told me that she doesn’t feel like letting me out to cum tonight. She liked the fact that I depended on her will to let me cum or not. Since then, both the frequency of my releases and her need for traditional PIV sex have greatly decreased. Most of the times when she felt like she wanted to get off, she would have me eat her out.

A few months ago we decided to have a child. We would have sex multiple times a day and she was really horny. However, a few weeks after she got pregnant, she started to experience the hormonal change and was less keen for sex. When we had sex I got all the enjoyment and she was just waiting for it to be over. She began to face away from me while browsing her phone. I always came within 2 minutes, but she kept complaining that I was taking too long. “It’s because you cum too much. You should be locked for longer.”

Eventually, my wife said that we should stop having sex for now, as she didn’t feel comfortable doing it with the child inside her, and decided that I will remain pussyfree until our child is born and her body recovers. I haven’t really seen her pussy since then, because she always wears pants in bed. Meanwhile she sees my locked cage every day as I prefer to sleep naked. She still has great sexual experiences, either she masturbates, or I give her oral (under the blanket) which she really enjoys. Most of the time, it takes her around 30-40 minutes to finally orgasm, but she always tells me that it feels great to get that release.

She said I’d get a handjob after at least 20 days in chastity. But when the day came, she decided that 20 days was too little for her. She told me that it’s not the right time to orgasm, as nothing special happened, and to wait till our marriage anniversary, adding that we must go someplace nice. I told her that I’m very frustrated but she said that she doesn’t have access to the keys as she left them at her best girlfriend’s house. I honestly wasn’t prepared to hear that. I think my wife noticed, as she asked me if I am in pain. I told her that it doesn’t hurt but my balls are full. She told me that as long as I am a good husband and take good care of her, she will think about giving me a special release on our marriage anniversary, and that I’m no longer allowed to talk about my need to cum or ask to be released.

She says that our life is good and she is the happiest that she has ever been, and that I’m the one who introduced her to chastity and gave her all these ideas, and that I should be glad to have such a good loving wife who indulges in her husband’s desires. I’m actually really proud of her for having kept me locked away for so long, without caring too much about my frustration.

Since I’ve posted that story on Reddit ↗ some people contacted me in DMs to ask for more revealing photos of my wife. She sometimes supplies me with hot pics of herself to post, and I can’t help getting turned on by the idea of strangers on the Internet shooting their loads to my wife’s pics and requesting more, whilst I can’t even cum.”


“She stopped servicing me in bed, but our sex life has never been more exciting.”

♂: “I (M32) wanted to thank you because your website was such an eye-opener for my wife (F31). We both LOVE the changes that male chastity brought to our relationship and I particularly admire how confident she has become. I wouldn’t want to change anything.

Our relationship has always been very loving and wonderful but there was always the issue that she had less interest in sex than me. At the beginning of our marriage, and long before chastity was part of our relationship, my wife used to give me handjobs when I was horny but she wasn’t in the mood for sex. I could tell that sex was more of an obligation for her, so I told her that she shouldn’t feel like she owed me sex. That year I didn’t get sex for my 30th birthday and got a handjob instead.

One night – this was more than a year ago – I was thinking about the last time my wife performed oral sex on me; it was almost four years ago on our first wedding anniversary and it ended in a ruined orgasm all over myself. She hasn’t expressed any interest in it since. So I questioned her and she matter of factly told me she never enjoyed them and she wasn’t willing to do it any more and won’t negotiate this. She said something like “I can’t remember the last time I sucked your dick but that quite likely was the last blowjob for you.” She’s commented a few times since that the last ever time I ever got my dick sucked was in my 20’s and I’ll never have that experience again. (She gave me blowjobs quite enthusiastically when we were dating and she was VERY good at it, but once we got married the blowjobs pretty much stopped. It seems the couple of times I received it during the first year of our marriage were almost intentionally bad. In hindsight, I think she didn’t want to do it and so she didn’t want me to enjoy it too much either.)

I began to ask myself if this was a “gift” I could give her? So, the next day I told her “if you don’t enjoy giving blowjobs, I promise to never suggest or request it again. The only sex that pleases me is the sex you enjoy.” Subsequently, it didn’t take long for me to admit to myself and then to her that I wanted to try male chastity, so I could be devoted to her needs rather than my own selfish urges. I had been mildly interested in chastity before and had secretly bought a few devices to try on, but I had never told her about it. It took her a few days to “get” chastity but finally it clicked and she agreed. She has been my keyholder for almost a year now.

I still remember the end of my first week in chastity, when I asked her for a handjob and she reluctantly agreed. We both sat up in bed, she remained clothed and I pulled my boxers down. She gave me the key to unlock; it was the first time my penis was coming out of the chastity device so it already felt very exciting. I put a condom on (she doesn’t like it when I make a mess) and she began to gently squeeze my balls and then finally rub my shaft with one finger. But she didn’t once take her eyes and other hand off her phone. It was the most lacklustre handjob I’ve ever had, so I asked if I could use her pussy instead. But she said no and that she doesn’t enjoy it that much. We talked a little more during the handjob and she said she prefers receiving oral sex or using her vibrator to get off and that she decided pussy wasn’t needed for me and I’m unlikely to be allowed inside ever again. When she said that I exploded and filled the condom. I thanked her for the handjob, and she just told me to put the chastity cage back on and went back to her phone.

Since then, handjobs have become very rare and sex disappeared completely. My birthday was the last time she used her hands to sexually stimulate my penis. I didn’t know it at the time. With little fuss or fanfare she stopped offering handjobs and started saying no if I asked for them. Yesterday, we were cuddling and I said: “Do you realize it has been almost half a year since you last touched my penis with your hands?“ She answered while still cuddling: “I love other things about you.”

We are still very much in love and have a very erotic relationship and an active sex life, but most sexual encounters with my wife now involve me giving oral sex to her. I absolutely love this tremendous imbalance in what she receives from me versus what I experience. She sometimes lets me jerk off on her pussy before I give her oral, so the irony is that I am the only person in the relationship who ends up with cum in their mouth as she hasn’t consumed a single drop of my semen in over four year.”


“We both love this kink.”

♂: “I’m 21 and she’s 19. She was worried about me going to college alone, with her staying in our hometown. Her cousin told her about chastity and so she researched and saw your site and other couples like us. One night we got drunk and went to a sex shop where we bought our first cage. Once she locked me she told me I was all hers now. It turned me on so much, we started getting frisky and I thought I was just trying it on, but she said “no”, that I don’t get to cum. She teased my cage and had me go down on her. That was three months ago. When we’re together I basically just go down on her every day. I love giving her orgasms while she just reminds me I’m caged and leaves me denied. When I’m away she sends me nudes and teases me with suggestive texts. She’s only 90 minutes away and can give me remote access to an emergency key I have with me in an electronic lockbox.

I once came inside her during sex even though she told me not to, so now when she lets me out I have to wear a penis extender so no matter how hard I thrust I can’t feel enough to orgasm. She says she loves denying me orgasms and putting me back in the cage after a long teasing session. She also enjoys teasing my cage with a vibrator saying I can only orgasm while locked in chastity, however the vibrator isn’t satisfying at all. We are doing the three months initial lock-up now and have a wonderful plan for my release on New Year’s Eve. When I’m on campus and I see other women, the cage reminds me of my girlfriend and I couldn’t do anything even if I wanted to. She also loves to remind me how I am helpless to do anything about my frustration because I can’t masturbate. She says she knows my cock is safe from my hands and other women but her pussy is free to do what it wants. (She doesn’t cheat, it’s a hard stop for me, but it’s just a tease.) Chastity isn’t just a game but a lifestyle and if more young women knew the benefits and how close you become I think everyone would do it.”

Update – from her: ♀: “On New Year’s Eve I was teasing him and he asked if I was going to take the cage off but I said “no, not today, I think you should spend more time pleasuring me and the cage can stay on for that.” There were no protests and instead he went down on me and then used a strap on. I think he’s starting to wish he could masturbate again but we are never going back. I told him he’d be locked longer than planned. This is our second extension with the lock up, I only added 2 weeks this time though. So he should be able to release in mid-late Jan if he’s good. We’re on our winter break, so he goes down on me every night and waits patiently for his release. The power of the cage is real; after I delayed his release again he was like putty in my hands.” Another Update – from her: ♀: “I think male chastity will only become more popular. A few friends asked me what the key is for and I’ve told them. They love it and look at me with respect and celebrate my power. They wish they could lock their man. Last night he was begging for release but I just said no because I didn’t want to and he couldn’t do anything but worship me.”


“She enjoys getting head and seeing how horny it makes me while being locked.”

♂: “My girlfriend and I started using a chastity cage not too long ago, and it’s been great so far. We have never had PIV sex as she wants to wait until we’re married. So besides me going down on her, I’ve only gotten handjobs and blowjobs (though more recently only handjobs). We’ve always used baby wipes to clean up afterwards, but I had the idea to start putting a condom on for handjobs for easier cleanup. For the past few weeks she’s stroked me normally for a bit then would put the condom on at the end. This week changed though; we’re in bed and I’m begging her to unlock and touch my cock. She grabs the key and before unlocking asks me where the condom is. I hand it to her, and she unlocks the cage and immediately puts the condom over my cock before she begins stroking. I have to admit it’s quite hot to think that my girlfriend might not touch my cock again without a condom between.”


“She told me with a smile that she wouldn’t give me blowjobs anymore...”

♂: “Since we started chastity, my wife has become much more confident sexually. She is in complete control of when and how we play, which is mostly me using toys on her or licking her. I am pretty much ‘pussyfree’ otherwise, but I really don’t mind. I’d rather give her multiple orgasms and get nothing in return than have ‘duty sex’ only for my own pleasure. I asked her when I’d get a blowjob and she just said ‘ew, I don’t do that anymore!’ and surprisingly I loved how unfair it is as I really love going down on her.”


“He will learn fast when his orgasm depends on giving her many.”

♂: “Our journey started 8 months ago after her girlfriend told her about your site. We experimented for a few weeks while I got adjusted to the cage and since then it’s been very intense as she decided to initiate the recommended 3-month lock up period. One night I was so desperate that I begged and demanded to cum so she gave me an extra month of lockup. When I protested she threatened to make it a 5-month lock up so I just accepted the one extra month.

Following my 4-month initial lock-up, I’ve largely been pussyfree. For sex she prefers to just have me wear a sheath because it’s bigger and hits better. I lock up again afterwards or if she doesn’t feel like unlocking at all I just go down on her and use a strap-on. I make sure to go down on her whenever she wants. She loves to tease and always leaves me desperate. Every once in a while she gives me a handjob but most of my orgasms are ruined. We are much closer now though and I’ve come to love it – being told to go down on her while feeling the intensity of the cage is much better than jerking off. She’s my queen and it’s all about her pleasure. She encourages all women to reject bad sex and instead lock their men to stop them from jerking off.”


“Chastity put our marriage back on track.”

♂: “Since the birth of our daughter five years ago, my wife has had zero interest in sex. She still loved cuddling and kissing but I was getting quite frustrated being rejected by her every time I asked for sex and having to masturbate instead. She did not even want me to touch or see her pussy any more. I started to think of it in a positive way, fetishizing her denial but ultimately this did not make me happy either.

We played around with chastity many years ago but never seriously and so I asked her to be my keyholder again thinking this would bring the spark back but unlike many other couples she wasn’t keen on it. She never attempted to tease me and she didn’t want me to pleasure her either, so it was still just a dead bedroom but without me being able to jerk off. After many weeks of honest communication we came to an agreement that is acceptable for her and a big improvement for me. Our arrangement now is that I am locked in chastity at all times but around twice a week she rolls a dice that decides what happens:

  1. She gives me a handjob.
  2. She gives me a blowjob (but I have to wear a condom).
  3. I get to masturbate while looking at her boobs.
  4. I remain locked and give her a long back and shoulder massage. I often get unlocked so I can rub my penis on her ass (I am not allowed to touch myself but sometimes manage to cum hands-free).
  5. I remain locked but she will let me lick her (under the blanket) for a few minutes – honestly this is my favourite even though I don’t get to cum.
  6. I get to roll again, and only if it is another 6 I can ask to enter her pussy but she can tell me to stop at any time and I need to pull out before I am about to cum.

This satisfies my need to be intimate with her and also my newly found denial fetish. I know it’s not an impressive sex life but I much prefer it to jerking off alone. I am so much happier with this lifestyle. For her it is not much effort and she does not have to pretend to have any sexual desire. She doesn’t mind doing these little sessions and I think she’s starting to enjoy them more and more.”


“‘You wanted this. Now it’s my decision, and so you’re fucked... but not literally!’”

♂: “We have always enjoyed a bit of femdom, particularly ballbusting. Locking me in chastity made her feel really powerful, and now she likes denying me any sex or blowjobs. She thinks me going down on her feels the best, so while I get denied she gets her pleasure. Usually but not always, she unlocks me after she cums and I get to jack off while she kicks or squeezes my nuts. We only had sex once or twice in the last few months but I’m fine with it because I love the whole powerplay.

I once told her that I didn’t expect her to embrace her keyholder role so quickly and that I was desperate to fuck her, and she laughed and while gripping my nuts and squeezing tight she said: “Just stop thinking of fucking me, babe. I already replaced sex for you with getting kicked in the balls by me, and yet you go down on me every time I ask. I get just what I like most. I’m the luckiest woman in the world.”

The other day, she found a post on Instagram about how much guys want sex, and she showed me that and laughed, saying “and you don’t get any sex hahahaha!” I just kissed her and held her tightly, and responded with “going down on you and getting my balls kicked by you is all I need.” She was clearly very turned on and flashed this bratty, satisfied smile.”


“Her pleasure and satisfaction comes first now.”

♂: “Never in the past was sex ever just about her. She always did the pleasing – until chastity came along. Now I barely get to cum at all, I almost never get a release, and I don’t mind! I really like to go down on her or use toys to make her cum. She has never been more satisfied sexually and loves the fact that she gets 100% of the attention.”


“I never would have thought I would be okay with an arrangement like this, but I love it.”

♂: “My wife admitted that while she enjoys sex, she never liked doing the “work” or feeling that she’s got to please me. She just wants to lay back and be pleased. She was nervous to admit this, but it became the key to improving our increasingly stagnant sex life. We began playing around with chastity and agreed soon after that going forward our sex life would primarily include cunnilingus for her and it would end when she is satisfied. My wife doesn’t get me off or reciprocate in any way. Instead our sex is focused completely and solely on her pleasure. After she’s been serviced she sometimes unlocks me and allows me to masturbate.

It sounds crazy, but we have never been more connected or had more passion! Her orgasms are my orgasms. She needs to be pleased and I need to please her. Her satisfaction satisfies us both. The removal of sexual stimulation for me is beneficial. I am kept in a constant state of excitement and sometimes I manage to cum while going down on her (with no stimulation of my penis). We're the happiest we've ever been. She no longer feels like a bad wife for being “lazy” in the bedroom and I feel loved, valued and appreciated like never before.”


“My releases have become rare and sex now means my mouth on her pussy. It’s so hot.”

♂: “When we were dating, we used to have penetrative sex about once a month or so. She enjoyed it but always needed a vibrator or my tongue during or after in order to orgasm. As time went on, sex became less frequent. A few years into dating she stopped giving me blowjobs as she said she didn’t enjoy it. We gravitated more and more to me licking her and her giving me a quick handjob afterwards. She would often be tired or bored and not finish my handjob so I’d have to finish myself. This became our usual sex life. She said she enjoyed my tongue the most, and that there was more no need for penetrative sex (beyond trying for a baby) and that handjobs were enough for me.

Now, with two kids and procreation done, I suggested to try male chastity. She really liked the idea. She said she enjoys my tongue the most, and that there was more no need for sex and that handjobs were enough for me. I have been “pussyfree” for over two years now. I get so hard and throb so much in my chastity cage as she rides my tongue and grinds my face, it really is my ideal sex. The biggest change that has happened since chastity is that she has become much stricter. I used to get a handjob every week but over time it decreased to maybe once every few months. Recently we agreed that my penis simply doesn’t deserve her touch.

This denial has been really hot. I still go down on her but my sexual relief has gone to 100% masturbation when she unlocks me. She used to supervise my masturbation, but now that has become a reward and sometimes she just dismisses me to the bathroom to jerk off into the toilet. I don’t know how much further this will progress, but so far I have really enjoyed our chastity and orgasm denial journey. ”


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