Testimonials by Women
“The longer he’s locked the better he behaves.”
♀: “I followed the advice of a friend and told my boyfriend I wanted to lock his cock. Since that moment he’s been like another man. More sympathetic, caring, and a great listener. He never forgets to do something I asked. He’s so sweet and romantic now, he does everything I want him to. We took it as play first, and I gave him a weekly handjob to release the tension, although sometimes I ended it with a ruined orgasm. Nowadays the cage goes off very rarely. He’d do anything for a monthly handjob. Or a blowjob if he’s been very good.”
“I keep my high school sweetheart locked.”
♀: “I’m a keyholder and I really enjoy doing it and that makes me really good at it. I like locking my guy’s dick in a chastity cage and being in control of him. He will beg and think about me all day. When I locked his dick for the first time I got addicted to the power instantly. The longer I keep him locked the more I get addicted to it. Fully in charge of his libido, his body, his mind. Best feeling ever. Chastity devices work and it’s great. It’ll make a man super horny when he sees you and you’ll have full control of his sexual pleasure. Highly recommended.”
“I once ‘forgot’ to bring the key when I went on a two-week beach holiday with him.”
♀: “I prefer to think of a caged cock as not emasculated, but restrained – power under control, the way that a dam holds back a river. Or a beast that’s been captured and tamed. That’s what I want to control: a cock that can be a mighty force when needed, but truly desires the refinement of restraint. Chastity as an elevation from beast to man.”
“My sister told me about male chastity. She also keeps her boyfriend locked.”
♀: “Chastity is not a ‘punishment’ for my boyfriend, it’s a reward for being such a sweet boy. I keep him in chastity because I love him. I keep him charged up with frequent teasing.”
“Chastity has made him much nicer and considerate.”
♀: “Male chastity has definitely improved our marriage. Men do not always realize how sex-driven they are. Now that I locked him he has begun to appreciate our daily interactions without the end goal of having sex with me. He has become the romantic lover he used to be at the beginning, who focuses on my desires and needs first rather than just on his urge to get off. I also like that he isn’t masturbating anymore. Rather than wasting time watching porn he now spends more time with me. Ultimately, chastity creates happier couples.”
“We achieved an orgasm ratio of 20 to 1.”
♀: “There’s nothing hotter for me that showing my love to my boyfriend with chastity. I’ve effectively taken his penis off him and put it under my control. He can’t get hard and can’t masturbate anymore unless I say so. He used to take ejaculations for granted, now they are something he’ll have to earn.”
“Chastity revived our dead bedroom.”
♀: “We’ve been married for eight years and have three children, and somehow we ended up at a point where I just wasn’t interested in sex anymore. I also wasn’t happy with his short temper and laziness, maybe that contributed to it. We had sex maybe once a month or even less, and he kept complaining that it wasn’t enough. About six months ago he admitted his desire for chastity and explained how he was masturbating every day. I agreed to hold his key and give him a release every weekend, but under the condition that he’d try and become more affectionate with me and help more with chores and the children. If he’s not behaving well I will skip his weekly orgasm, but if he is good he gets a release (either me giving a handjob or him masturbating next to me). The keys are not kept at home. I keep one at work which I bring home for the weekend if needed, and I gave the other two to my best friend and my sister. I think since we started chastity he’s really improved himself and has become a better husband. There’s more love in our relationship now and as he is transforming himself my sex drive is slowly starting to reappear.”
“Our only regret: not knowing about chastity earlier.”
♀: “If you want a husband who is always attentive, loving, caring, faithful, devoted, polite, and passionate, who tells you every day how much he desires you... try being a chastity wife. What have you got to lose? If it doesn’t work out you can always take the chastity cage off. But I bet after a few days you won’t want to!”
“My favourite thing about chastity is the daily oral sex.”
♀: “I was sceptical at first. My boyfriend was the one who introduced male chastity to me. At first I thought it’s just some sex toy to play around with for a few days and forget about it. But I was wrong. After a while I realized I’m loving this whole chastity thing... In fact I was the one who wanted to keep it going a lot longer than we originally planned.”
“My favourite chastity device is the one with spikes inside to punish erections.”
♀: “I love having this secret with my boyfriend. When we go out while he’s still locked in that cage. Nobody knows. But I can keep teasing him. It’s the little things he does that let me know how very mine he is. It’s his secret frustration that only I can see that really excites me.”
“I want to make every lock-up period longer than the last one.”
♀: “There are so many great things about being a keyholder. Deciding when he can get erect and when he can cum. Knowing that he cannot masturbate when he is alone. The fact he now sits to pee. Sending him pictures of his key around my neck throughout the day, just to remind him who owns his cock. Sitting between his legs and playing with his cage – I love the weight of the metal in my hands and the look of happy agony on his face. Playing with myself while he watches me, locked. Leaving for a weekend trip and not bringing the key. Pegging – this brought an enjoyment to my sex life that I never knew I was missing. Deciding when and how we have sex. Better, more intimate sex. A calmer, cleaner, more romantic partner. A better, more intimate, more loving relationship.”
“His last masturbation was years ago.”
♀: “Do all men play with themselves in the bathroom? Not mine. Now the only thing he’ll be playing with is me. We have become so much closer since I put him in chastity and control his orgasms. The only thing I regret is not starting earlier. Chastity is by far my favourite kink, I’ve embraced it totally and I’ll keep him locked up forever, there is no doubt about that.”
“I told my best friend that I am my husband’s keyholder.”
♀: “Like many wives new to male chastity I quickly discovered, when denied an orgasm of his own, hubby gets obsessed with mine. It’s intimate. It’s lovely. It strengthens the bond between us. And it’s romantic too. To the readers out there: Why not try it this weekend and see what I mean.”
“Being a keyholder has made me feel more confident and attractive.”
♀: “I was always a quite shy, maybe even “prude”. For example, I don’t masturbate. Maybe you won’t believe me but it’s true. It’s not that I don’t have a sex drive – in fact I get horny quite often and I find my husband very attractive. But I was quite insecure about my body. I didn’t want him to look at my vagina and even liked to keep the lights on when we had sex! He bought stuff to spice things up, like a vibrator, but I never dared to use them. Another issue was that my husband needed sex more often than me so I gave him a blowjob about once a week. But actually I hated putting his penis in my mouth, I just did it out of a sense of duty. One day he proposed to try male chastity (because apparently he was STILL masturbating despite my efforts to please him!) and he sent me the link to your website. Long story short: it’s been a few months with him locked in chastity now and our marriage has been transformed. First of all, I’m relieved that I don’t need to give him blowjobs anymore. One night I even told him that I’ll never put his dick anywhere near my mouth again. To my surprise he seemed to get aroused…? Turns out it turns him on when I say stuff like never giving him a blowjob again or making him wait for his next orgasm. However, he’s now always asking to lick me down there! At first, I was too shy and self-conscious to say yes, but the more time I spent being his keyholder the more I saw how attracted he is to me and the more confident I became about my body. Nowadays he licks me regularly. Is it unfair that he gives me oral sex all the time but I deny him the same? It doesn’t matter. I have the key, I decide, and I love it (he does, too). I feel really sexy now. We’ve never been emotionally closer. I love him more than ever. It’s incredible what effect locking his cock had on our relationship!”
“He is only allowed ‘ruined’ orgasms.”
♀: “Here’s a fun fact: Girls who lock up their boyfriends in chastity devices get to have as many orgasms as they want! I’m really glad that I have a clit that I can touch and not just a caged dick like him. Denying him orgasms will also make him want to eat your pussy constantly. Prepare for pleasure overload!”
“She is a ‘size queen’ and loves to make fun of his small penis.”
♀: “I am the one who put him in chastity in the first place because I wanted to explore my dominant side and also keep him pussy-free. He is only allowed to penetrate me while wearing a large cock extender. I don’t find any real living penis attractive, and it doesn’t help that my husband’s is tiny. Sex to me is more about chemistry and love, hence I think chastity is perfect. My husband showed his devotion and love by locking his dick for me. His cage twitches everytime he spoons me. I just love how his dick is getting tight in the cage, but he just cannot do anything about it.”
“I believe that a locked cock is a happy cock.”
♀: “Love your site. My boyfriend brought chastity to our relationship and I love it. I totally and completely control his orgasms and bully his cock leaving him so very frustrated but eager to please me. I thoroughly enjoy the oral sex and he now stays close to pussyfree as he isn’t on his best behavior after PIV sex (this is a development he enjoys). I love seeing him fill his cage up with nowhere to go and feeling his cage press against me knowing he can’t do anything. It’s so empowering and kinky plus he became such a loving devoted partner. We can never go back to him controlling his orgasms and I think all cocks should be caged (if there’s consent of course).”
“We started male chastity after the birth of our third child.”
♀: “Don’t kid yourself, nothing even comes close. If you truly want your husband focused on you, lock him in chastity. My husband has been locked with his orgasms under my control for nearly 5 years, and he is totally devoted to my needs. The most important thing is I’m getting more out of our marriage and from him in every area of life. I’m happier, more content, and more confident.”
“Chastity has helped our relationship.”
♀: “Your website is so inspiring to me! Thanks so much for sharing. Me and my boyfriend were living a long distance relationship and keeping him locked up in a cage has been really bonding and important in the construction of our relationship and connection. My style is softer, let’s put it this way. I really love getting penetrated by dick so we still have a lot of sex. Though he’s not allowed to cum without my permission. The longest time I kept him locked without a release was 21 days so far. He can only masturbate and cum under my supervision and guidance. No porn allowed or any other stimulation that doesn’t come from me.”
“His average lock-up period is 4 months.”
♀: “When he handed over the keys, our sex life was resurrected from the dead. We went from no sex together to more and better sex than when we were first married, all without him experiencing orgasms very often. Besides having better sex, I now have a more caring, attentive husband. We never argue anymore, not even about the household chores or what to watch on TV. He shows me and tells me every day how much he loves me. The chastity devices he wears doesn’t make him do this. It simply ensures he does.”
“I’ve never been more in love with him.”
♀: “Right now my husband has been locked a little over 6 weeks. He’s more attentive to my needs, helps out around the house and with the baby without me even asking or having to tell him, very in tune with my body and my needs, more submissive and less aggressive... the list is endless!”
“I love to be kinky in the bedroom and keep him locked 24/7.”
♀: “Male chastity is very important for me. He is always locked except for cleaning or when I give him a handjob every few weeks. When I unlock him, I expect him to cum in less than a minute, otherwise the cages goes back on. We’ve always been a kinky couple: besides chastity, I really love to slap or kick his balls, which really turns both of us on like nothing else, or peg him with my strap-on, which is a beautiful and intimate way of making him cum without even unlocking him.”
“His longest lock-up period was 6 months and 3 days.”
♀: “At first I didn’t get the appeal of chastity. Now that my husband is in chastity, I’m more attracted to him than ever. It makes him so much hotter. It would be real let down if he wasn’t wearing it. He looks so cute with that little chastity bulge in his underwear. Also, his behaviour has improved significantly. He didn’t realize how often he treated me badly or upset me. Now he’s trying to be a perfect husband.”
“We are in a long-distance relationship and he remains locked when I’m not around.”
♀: “To all the ladies who think their partner is weird for bringing up chastity. Just stop for a second and think. He wants to worship you, he wants to belong to you, he wants to pleasure you, he is willing to suffer for you, he wants to devote himself to your happiness. And he’ll love every second of it. What are you waiting for?”
“I’m his princess and receive oral sex almost daily.”
♀: “In our relationship he brings in most of the money (I only work part-time), he does all the chores at home, he buys me nice things and he showers me with attention. I’m his princess. That’s because he wants to, not because I make him. In the bedroom he always makes sure to satisfy me. I like having sex with him, but I really love getting licked. We have started using a chastity device which is turning me on like crazy. Currently he gets to orgasm once a week, normally a handjob but sometimes a blowjob if I’ve been very happy with him. However, I plan to slowly increase the time between orgasms, from weekly to fortnightly and then to monthly.”
“One of my girlfriends recommended male chastity to me.”
♀: “Male chastity is great for us, it was getting a bit stale in the bedroom. He makes me feel so sexy all the time now. Since I locked his cock up and have no plans to unlock it anytime soon, I guess I’m going to have to endure yet another night of long, boring massages followed by him going down on me until I’ve had enough. Sucks to be me...”
“I want him to get a piercing for 100% security.”
♀: “Agreeing to lock him in chastity was the best decision I ever made... Now he belongs to me and will do anything to please me. I am never going back to the way things used to be, I just wouldn’t be able to live like that again.”
“We discovered male chastity four years ago while watching porn together.”
♀: “I don’t know if long-term male chastity was what my husband REALLY wanted or if it was just a fantasy that turned him on. It doesn’t matter, now it’s my fantasy. Ever since I stopped letting him masturbate, he’s been an amazing husband and he’s given me amazing orgasms. Our sex life has never been better. I’m not giving that up.”
“I will never allow him to masturbate again.”
♀: “Sure, he can still call it ‘his’ cock, but only because it is attached to his body. It isn’t really his anymore, thanks to that little cock cage. He can’t get off, he can’t touch it, and he can’t even get an erection without my permission. That means only I control it. So yes, it’s still his cock, but I own it. It’s the greatest feeling in the world.”
“I’d rather be single than have a partner who’s not willing to be locked by me.”
♀: “Since I have become my boyfriend’s keyholder, I can’t stop touching his package. It’s so gratifying knowing that this most masculine part of his has been tamed and is now totally under my control. There is something truly empowering about it and the thrill of it has never left me.”
“My husband introduced chastity to me, but now I’m the one enjoying it the most.”
♀: “I love keeping my husband in chastity. I believe that masturbation is a form of cheating, and a little bit insulting. I should be everything he needs. So for me it makes perfect sense to lock him up. Once he got a bit desperate and begged me to unlock him, promising he won’t masturbate anymore. So I said, if you don’t do it, then you shouldn’t care about the chastity cage. He had to agree. And now it stays on until I want sex, which is about once or twice a week. It also makes love-making more special when he has to wait and earn it. He’s so eager for that. We have a great relationship.”
“When he brought up chastity for the first time, I loved the idea immediately.”
♀: “I lock the front door when I leave the house. I lock my car after I park it. Why shouldn’t I keep my man’s dick locked up when I don’t need it? Ladies, if you like it, put a lock on it.”
“I want to tell my girlfriends that I am my boyfriend’s keyholder.”
♀: “It’s amazing how much a man’s personality and mood improves once his penis is under your control. It’s not just the usual stuff, like him wanting to please you more, both in and out of the bedroom. I also noticed how he has become less aggressive, more joyful, and more content in general. He used to get angry easily when something wasn’t going his way, but this childish behavior has stopped permanently after the first few months of chastity. He has really grown up and matured, and now he is more attractive in every way. I love him so much.”
“We are going to buy his ‘forever’ device, a custom-made titanium cage.”
♀: “I don’t want him thinking about other girls. Chastity ensures he only thinks about me! At first, I was apprehensive, but the truth is that I love being the main character in his every fantasy.”
“I left the key at my place of work to avoid the temptation of unlocking him too early.”
♀: “We have played with male chastity on and off for a couple of years now. But whenever I unlock him for sex or a handjob I am too timid to tell him to lock back up afterwards, and I guess he is not in the mood after cumming because he never takes the initiative either. So he ends up remaining unlocked for a while until one of us brings up chastity again and we start over. I read your website (after my boyfriend asked me to) and I have decided to be “serious“ this time. I told him we’re going for three months without unlocking, just like you recommend. It’s only been two weeks so far but I can already see a big difference in his attitude. I’m really excited to do the whole three months. I can’t stop teasing him, knowing he won’t have a release for many more weeks.”
“I let him have an orgasm for every ten of mine.”
♀: “Locking my boyfriend in chastity was the best decision I ever made. He is more caring, puts me first, and has more sexual energy than ever before! Keeping him in a chastity cage makes me happy.”
“I want him to get a Prince Albert piercing to make the device escape-proof.”
♀:“Women always want a guy to treat her like a queen. All they got to do is lock a guy up! Holding that little key will improve any relationship. He will care more about your needs and wants before his own, he will be willing to please you all of the time. I love the control over him that chastity gives me. With his cock locked away, I don’t have to worry about keeping him satisfied or giving him sex when I’m not in the mood. This ability to decide what I want to do with my body is very liberating.”
“I was sceptical about chastity at first, until I saw how he started paying me attention.”
♀: “When he told me about his masturbation, I was kind of shocked. Almost daily is not healthy for any person or relationship. Chastity put a stop to it. I told him orgasms are a reward now if he does good going down on me and taking care of my needs. I like having more control over our sex lives and more focus on me. I enjoy my pleasure coming first and how he worships me. Being his sole source of orgasm is a power trip. The craziest thing is I want sex more than ever since he’s been in the device.
Rather than sex still being penis-centric it’s now all about my pussy’s pleasure. The chastity cage has led to cunnilingus on demand and the use of more toys to achieve deeper, better penetration. Our foreplay can now include hours of pussy eating or him using a big dildo on me. I bought him a spiked cage – it’s so sexy just hearing him moan from the frustration and the spikes digging a little. Now, when he’s released he uses a cock extender on me and his orgasm isn’t guaranteed. It’s funny because that’s how it used to be for me, but he’s learned what I knew – that it’s not about the orgasm, it’s about the connection. I love the girth and length of the cock extender, it feels better. The idea of him knowing his release for orgasm is dependent on my orgasm and seeing his eagerness to please me is also very hot.
It’s starting to dawn on him that he doesn’t decide if he cums anymore. Right now our goal is to bump our orgasm ratio up from 4:1 to 10:1 and eventually higher. On your site you mention men fantasize about chastity, but it ends up being different – I think that’s starting to happen for us. But I’m not going back to him masturbating behind my back ever, those days are done. This new lifestyle is literally a fantasy for me, he stopped masturbating and porn use, in return I get to feel like the sexiest woman ever and we get more passionate, intimate sex.
In our emotional and shared life he is more attentive and caring, he’s better about helping with chores, he remembers more and is more alert to different things, he is getting in even better shape and spends more time with me. He also gives me massages, kisses and cuddles without expectations of release. In that sense I think he’s become a better man and partner. I don’t boss him, the cage just made him better, more loving and more productive. Before he was good about stuff but now he’s like Superman. My friends were shocked by his change in personality and wondering what our secret is! I told two of my friends about chastity and our orgasm ratio and they can’t believe I orgasm more than him and were definitely intrigued. One of my friends also locked her man after she saw your site and saw how my experience has progressed. I’m so happy he brought chastity into our lives, I’m certain this dynamic can be long-term. I think all women would benefit from using the cage.”
Update from him (1.5 years later): ♂: “We currently stand at a 150 to 1 orgasm ratio. There are accidents now and then because I’m so sensitive when I’m out of the cage, but the punishment for that is a tease session while I’m wearing the spiked cage, which I love and hate at the same time. We have explored more toys and found these things I can wear over my dick that really prevents sensation so we can have sex like normal, it’s just more pleasureable for her and then I’m back in chastity. I eagerly lock back up at her command because she’s my queen and she knows when I need an orgasm. She makes sure to use a vibrator on my cage now and then and I always thank for these ruined orgasms in chastity.”
“I’ve got hundreds of photos of his locked penis saved on my phone.”
♀: “Even simple things like kissing and cuddling together, with him locked in chastity, can be fun. If you’re a “vanilla” woman reading this: Go on, try it tonight. We are physically intimate far more frequently than we were at any other time in our marriage. And despite this he’s had fewer orgasms than ever.”
“He gets rewarded one release for every ten times he hits the gym.”
♀: “Chastity is the second-best thing that ever happened to me, after meeting him of course. It taught him to focus on pleasing me. It made him a better, stronger man, and a better boyfriend. I genuinely prefer his dick caged. Chastity has been a gift.”
“Our sex life has never been better.”
♀: “I read your website after my fiancé sent me the link and after thinking about it for a while I agreed to try out male chastity. Now we have sex whenever I want (rather than every single time he’s horny) and we stop once I’ve had my orgasm and then I lock him back up afterwards so he doesn’t get to finish. I don’t want to take the pill and he hates condoms so you could say this is our way of birth control. I have put him on a weekly orgasm schedule. Every weekend I get my boobs out and allow him to masturbate in front of me for five minutes. I know that you recommend longer times between orgasms but I think once a week works well for us, at least for now. Although I am considering not unlocking him for a whole month before our wedding!”
“We discovered chastity before we got married and he remained locked throughout our honeymoon.”
♀: “I love feeling his cage up against me as he cuddles me to sleep, but mostly I love not having to consider his need for orgasm anymore. I love knowing that he can’t masturbate anymore, that he can’t think about other women, that he can’t cheat on me, and that all of his sexual energy is focused on me.”
“Every modern woman should try out male chastity.”
♀: “I don’t understand how modern concepts such as gay marriage or transsexuality are now openly acknowledged and accepted, but male chastity is still so hush-hush. Millions of chastity cages have been sold! It’s up to us keyholding girlfriends and chaste boyfriends to bring the benefits of chastity – greater intimacy, better relationships, reduced masturbation – out of the shadows. The thrill of holding a man’s key is something I never experienced before and I wouldn’t want to give it up again. Maybe I’ll release him tomorrow, maybe I’ll make him wait another week. Or maybe a month, or even a year? I’m the only one who knows.”
“We are trying for a baby – but he only gets unlocked when I’m ovulating.”
♀: “I like to keep all my valued possessions safe and locked away, and that includes his cock. It helps him keep focused on me and stops him wasting hours and hours on masturbation. This in turn means that he’s more productive and thus I’m helping him have added value in his life.”
“At first I thought chastity was a silly idea – but now there’s no way I’m going back.”
♀: “It’s incredible how much his attitude has changed for the better since I am his keyholder. For example, when I ask him to do something, he actually does it. There’s no arguing like there used to be. He’s so attentive to my needs now. He wants to make sure I’m alright all the time. If there’s anything I want or need he’s willing to provide it. His selfish days seem to be over. And when it comes to sex, he’s so focused on pleasing me. My sex life has never been this good. He’s allowed about two orgasms a month, and why would I agree to him having more, when I’ve never been happier? If anything I’ve been thinking we might experiment with fewer orgasms for him. His penis always seems to strain in its cage when I talk about keeping him locked up for longer anyway.”
“He is currently on a two-month release schedule.”
♀: “What I like most is the fact that my man seems to be more attentive to me. Like helping me and doing things normally would be like pulling teeth. I can tell a huge difference in his attitude when he’s locked and when he’s not. He’s much more supportive and will ask things like ‘what can I do to make your day easier?’ Plus the fact he goes crazy when it’s time to unlock, and basically ravages me.”
“I enjoy getting oral sex whenever I feel like it.”
♀: “I think that chastity is often raised by men, especially chronic masturbators, who secretly want more attention to their penis. And that usually doesn’t work, because women already think they are paying too much attention to his penis. So when chastity takes hold and works, it’s the woman who gets more attention, not the penis.”
“He mentioned chastity on our first date.”
♀: “The difference in his attitude is like night and day when he is locked. The first couple of days can sometimes be challenging as he adjusts but then he is so much more attentive and generally lovely to have around. He goes out of his way to help out around the house and make sure my needs are met. That little device makes him a much better partner, and I’ve told him repeatedly that he’s 100% made for chastity. It just makes him more balanced and happy in himself. His releases are now few and far between and we are working towards reducing them more.”
“I prefer my vibrator on most days.”
♀: “I’m still fairly new to this world, my boyfriend introduced me to it. It was his kink turned into ours. The longest I’ve let him go without orgasm is a month, and I’m starting to feel like I should prolong it more. After a few days of being locked up, he becomes extra affectionate and horny and all that, which I love. I want to take it to the next step and go longer.”
“I used to lock my previous boyfriend, too.”
♀: “There are many reasons why boys should be caged. They’ll be more responsive to your wants and needs. They’ll be more productive themselves, not having to be concerned about masturbating. He’ll always be thinking of you and always knows that you are the center of his pleasure. He’ll learn the difference between wanting to cum and needing to cum. And finally, it’s just so hot to know he can’t get off without your permission.”
“I locked my boyfriend after he sent me the link to your website.”
♀: “I just love knowing that he wakes up every morning aroused, longing for me, with those full and aching balls, and knowing that without my key, there’s nothing he can do about it. This is only the beginning of our journey.”
“We are currently doing ‘Locktober’ followed by ‘No Nut November’.”
♀: “Since my boyfriend agreed to have his (my) cock locked up, I have become more interested in having sex with him. When and if we are to have sex is totally up to me. He has learned to never ask to be unlocked. There is now a very special loving bond between us.”
“We went on a long holiday together without bringing the key.”
♀: “Male chastity has become our favourite kind of sexual play. In it I found my true power as a woman. Teasing is one of my favourite activities. He gets nothing, just more horny, and I can still cum if I want to. When I unlock him he puts all his energy into sex. When I leave him caged, he is focusing on his body, getting fit. I love keeping him locked up, it’s so damn sexy! He currently has been locked for about five months with short breaks.”
“Sex is about my pleasure now.”
♀: “When my husband brought up chastity, I just loved the idea from day one. He spends most of the time caged, but I still unlock him when I want him, he just doesn’t get to cum when we have sex and the ring behind his balls stays on. We're done when I am done and then he is going back into chastity right after. He has gotten used to staying locked in chastity with no release expectations.”
“I believe that masturbation is cheating.”
♀: “We have been playing around with chastity for about a year now. Once, I even went back to my home country without him for a few weeks and took the key with me. I really enjoy having control over his orgasms. He loves it, too. My fantasy is to also prohibit any unpermitted erections. I ordered a metal cage with spikes that will discourage erections in the cage. It should arrive in a few days and I am really excited to try it out.”
“I wear the key on a necklace but nobody has ever asked me what it’s for.”
♀: “I love how he doesn’t get hard anymore without my permission. When he gets horny he just strains inside his cage, it’s honestly beautiful and I kind of want to keep him like this forever. It’s really nice just holding his package, all locked up tight, no mess, no hard dick moving around all weird, just a nice compact package. It throbs to let me know how much it appreciates my touch. It’s so comforting to know I turn him on that much and no one else can.”
“In the past he used to get off every day while I rarely had an orgasm – now it’s the other way round!”
♀: “Our story started with a “libido mismatch”. My husband wanted sex every day whereas I would’ve been fine doing it like once a month. As a result he would masturbate every single day. I wasn’t aware of it until one day he mentioned it in passing. You can’t imagine how upset I was, imagining him wanking and watching porn every day! I felt like he had been cheating on me! Anyway, I was googling for some advice and somehow stumbled upon your website. I thought chastity was a bit crazy but that it might actually work for us and also that I could get “revenge” by denying him orgasms. He’s always been a bit kinky (for example he is really into “eating my ass”), and indeed he was really enthusiastic when I mentioned chastity cages and he bought one the next day. He didn’t have any pain or issues after wearing it (with breaks) for a few weeks, so I decided to start with the recommended lock-up period of three months. That was almost a year ago. He’s been locked 24/7 – on the rare occasions when I take the device off I make sure to put it back on immediately afterwards. Our relationship is so much better now. I can be sure he doesn’t masturbate anymore, in fact now he can’t even get an erection without my permission! I feel so much more confident as a woman. He appreciates me more, now that I’m the only person who can give him sexual pleasure. I have become more sexually active myself and I’m putting my pleasure first now. I love it when he goes down on me and we have bought a large strap-on that he now wears during sex. We recently bought a smaller version of the same chastity cage as we’ve noticed his penis is “adapting” to the erection ban and is getting smaller, which I find really hot for some reason (although when I do allow him an erection it’s still the same size). Chastity has had so many positive effects on our relationship and how he appreciates and treats me that even my friends have started to notice. I’ve told my best friends about chastity and one of them has been so fascinated with it that she’s now trying to convince her husband!”
“We recently discovered the joys of male chastity.”
♀: “Chastity is fun for both of us. He doesn’t get to cum anymore but will pleasure me any time I want. I like to unlock him for a little bit of edging and teasing before putting his dick back into the cage. This year we’ve been doing Locktober and No Nut November. He’s so horny he can’t hold his precum in and is leaking through his cage, which I really love. It’s such a turn-on seeing his dick locked in the little chastity cage. It just seems to be where it belongs. I love keeping him locked up – and he has no choice but to like it!”
“He only had two accidental ejaculations during sex – the first one was forgiven, the second one punished with a knee to the balls.”
♀: “I love knowing that his dick is mine, I love using it as my sex toy, and I love making him go down on me and clean me up after sex if I allow him to cum inside. When we have sex, I either push him off once I orgasm or I give him a minute to finish. When we started with chastity his orgasm allowance was once a month and since then it has been gradually reduced. This year he got six orgasms and next year it will be lower, in fact since we are getting married in six months, I have set his allowance to zero until the wedding. To avoid any accidents, I plan to only let him give me oral sex until then.”
“I want to limit him to two or three orgasms next year.”
♀: “Originally I brought up the idea of locking him in a chastity device because we were going to different unis and only seeing each other on the weekends, and I really loved the idea that he wouldn’t be able to masturbate and could only cum inside me. Chastity is a promise of loyalty and show of respect, it touches my heart. I am lovingly taking care of his dick for for him and keep it safe from his over-eager hands. I appreciate his chastity and all the things he does for me. He only wants to make me happy and my pleasure is his pleasure. For him, chastity is a huge sacrifice in the name of love. It’s all for us. I let him know all the time how much I love him. And when I give him just a little of the love and attention he deserves, it comes back to me tenfold. I now prefer keeping him locked most of the time and get to enjoy his eager oral service, which he’s becoming really good at. I am grateful that he allowed me to bring male chastity into our relationship, because it has improved it so much. We are closer now than ever. I wouldn’t want to go back.”
“I love having the control over his penis.”
♀: “When a man is able to masturbate and orgasm any time he likes, it can become a problem for the relationship. Playing with himself instead of paying attention to his wife, family or work. Male masturbation is a waste of time and not to mention, it’s is gross. So, a chastity device can be a solution. I keep my husband locked because I know that he will otherwise, like all guys, watch porn or masturbate. And I won’t allow it. In fact I think it’s a form of cheating. My experience is that he (probably like all men) doesn’t have enough self-control to stop masturbating on his own. But now that he is locked, he isn’t able to! I don’t care much about denying him orgasms, it’s fine if he orgasms during sex, but I just don’t want him wasting his orgasm on himself.”
“He has been locked for almost half a year without break.”
♀: “I don’t think our relationship has ever been this exciting and sexy. I get satisfied as often as I want while he only gets more frustrated and more eager to please. Sometimes I get aroused just when I think about how long I’ve been denying him. I think about how easy it would be to unlock him and just pull on his dick a few times, but then I remember that chastity was his idea, not mine.”
“We live in different cities and can only see each other on weekends The chastity device helped.”
♀: “I wanted to thank you for your website which has greatly helped us as a couple. I gladly keep my boyfriend locked. It’s not that I don’t trust him, but I don’t trust other women, so this is a good way to keep him safe. I don’t mind that he can’t jerk off either. It keeps him more eager for my sexual needs.”
“His longest lock-up period was three months.”
♀: “My boyfriend introduced me to male chastity on our second date and I agreed to lock him on the third one. I think it’s funny how everyone thinks he gets to fuck me regularly, but actually he has never put his penis inside me, not even once. He just gets to lick me all the time, and when I unlock him, which happens rarely, he will just get a two-finger handjob. We’re both very happy with this arrangement.”
“It was his idea, but now I like chastity the most.”
♀: “He’s locked up more often than he’s ever hoped for. I really enjoy seeing him in the cage and how he is getting increasingly desperate to cum. I’ll let him out to play sometimes, but it’s completely on my terms. I also love playing with myself in front of him. Chastity has not only spiced up our sex life but now he’s also become better boyfriend who takes care of all my needs.”
“I like how he focuses on me when we have sex now.”
♀: “Male chastity has been such a great thing for our relationship. I love the feeling of control and power, and how he’s trying his best to please me. He hasn’t touched his dick for a long time and he can’t even get hard unless I unlock him. I love rubbing my ass on his cage to frustrate him, and I love it when he eats me while I ignore his little cock. We just got this new tiny cage and I want to see if he can handle it for a whole month.”
“We are a modern couple using a modern contraception method.”
♀: “We agreed that we don’t want any more kids. Originally he had scheduled a vasectomy, but then we realised that it’s been months since he last came inside me, so we cancelled the appointment. When we have penetrative sex, we always use a strap-on dildo and he remains locked. Trust me a good dildo feels much better than your husband’s dick ever could, and never spurts too fast! He agrees that since his dick doesn’t have a purpose now, it might as well be locked up forever. I love him so much.”
“It may look like I’ve got all the power, but actually I’m just fulfilling his wildest fantasies.”
♀: “We’re new to chastity. He sent me your website a couple of months ago and it took me a while to wrap my head around it. At the beginning I just played along to please him, but now actually I think I’m the one enjoying it more. For me, the chastity cage is a symbol of love. He loves being locked and I love being his perfect keyholder. It’s so sexy seeing him horny and desperate when I tease him, while I can masturbate anytime I want.”
“Doesn’t being in this cage make him so much more presentable?”
♀: “It’s so beautiful how a little cage locked around his cock can provide so much pleasure for me. He willingly sacrifices his physical pleasure so that he can focus on enhancing mine, and I know he is grateful for the opportunity. It’s so sexy reminding him that his caged cock is mine. I wonder if I should just throw away the key and keep him pussy-free forever? Pegging my caged hubby while he’s locked makes both of us super horny, so he can just learn to cum like that.”
“I only use his dick for my own pleasure.”
♀: “I love keeping him locked up. I love how he doesn’t get hard anymore, when he gets horny he can’t do anything about it, it’s honestly beautiful and I kind of want to keep him like this forever. I love putting my hand into his pants and feeling the tight package, sometimes a bit wet from pre-cum as he’s so horny. It’s so comforting to know I turn him on that much and nobody else can.”
“Our relationship has become stronger and sexier.”
♀: “He said that the cock cage is a constant reminder that I own his cock, even when I’m not around. Every time he’s sexually aroused, he feels the confinement of the cage and thinks about me. I believe that chastity has created a deep bond between us and he has become completely devoted to me because he depends on me for sexual release. After 30 days in the cock cage I reward him with a quick handjob after which he goes back in the cage.”
“My boyfriend used to masturbate to other girls’ pictures – but not anymore!”
♀: “Me and my boyfriend started our journey mainly because I’ve always felt that he could do a better job with his hands than having vaginal sex, and the idea of having him locked also turns me on a lot. He has so much desire when he is locked, it’s amazing! One key point that I’ve found during this journey is that consistency is key if I want to keep him happy while caged. The other day, he behaved so well that I decided to give him a handjob. This has been a hell of a journey, but both of us are enjoying it. I’m happy that I’m in control and he is happy that I take the lead.”
“You don’t need to be into femdom to enjoy male chastity.”
♀: “My husband and I have been interested in chastity for a few years, but we didn’t make it a lifestyle until two years ago. We honestly couldn’t be happier. We have much more sex and intimacy than ever before, and our relationship (while always solid) has grown and become even stronger. It’s an amazing journey when you both embrace it and enjoy the ride.”
“He loves the loss of control and feeling more and more horny and desperate.”
♀: “Chastity revealed the trust he has in me, to offer me complete control of his cock and orgasms, and it just makes me melt. The fact that he is constrained and frustrated every single day as a reminder of my domination over him is beyond hot. The fact that he pretty much always wants to touch me makes me feel cared for and protected. Watching his rare orgasms (which are very, very intense) is really hot as well. His sexuality since removing his cock from the equation has evolved so much and our sex life has never been better.”
“Since my husband is caged our lives have totally changed for the better.”
♀: “We have been together for over 20 years, 10 years of marriage. Our sex life was good, but since we discovered this, it has been amazing. I was really sceptical at first, but I love the power that it gives me over him. It brings out a “bad” side of me that I never knew I had. We even started sexting, something I never wanted to do before. I love the attention that my husband gives me now, and that I am on his mind 24/7. He wants to please me in every way that I want, and even gives me massages whenever I want it. I love to tease him, but then he gets (almost) nothing in return. I’m curious where this is going, and I love every second of it!”
“He does everything for me! He’s my perfect little caged hubby.”
♀: “I don’t like to brag, but my pussy tastes wonderful (his words). So, I believe he will do anything to taste it! When he’s locked, he likes to use his tongue while I’m sitting on his face. Although yesterday he only watched and the vibrator did the job. At the end of Locktober he managed to cum inside the cage. I guess that means he doesn’t need to take it off anymore, right? Let’s start NO-vember!”
“Chastity truly does make couples so very happy. I recommend it to any woman.”
♀: “I learned about chastity from a sorority sister in college. Her boyfriend was very well behaved and she was nervous to tell us her secret but eventually she spilled after a fun night of partying. I convinced my boyfriend at the time to try it. He agreed. It started out slow at first. I never denied his orgasms but eventually he started making demands and I decided to put my foot down. From then on I’ve owned his cock and he’s so well behaved, we rarely argue, we cuddle every night and our sex is amazing, better than ever. Even though he doesn’t cum often he agrees it’s fantastic. He pleases me constantly in every way. He’s a great partner and I love him now in marriage.”
“The fact that he has a big cock makes me want to lock it up even more.”
♀: “I love having my partner in chastity. For me, him knowing that I have the key, but that I’m unlikely to use it, that I can reward him but rarely do, makes everything he does more honestly motivated. He helps more at home, always makes sure all my needs are taken care of, and showers me with acts of service. In the beginning, when I said “thank you honey but you can’t be let out until in a few days” was very frustrating for him, but now he accepts it because he knows sex isn’t an option for him unless I want it. Of course I still get off when I want to.”
“I’d definitely recommend chastity to any woman out there who’s considering it.”
♀: “He introduced the idea of chastity and he was super into it and sent me some links. I was hesitant at first because I was usually the submissive partner in bed. Nevertheless, he went ahead and bought a cage and he really like being locked up. What really got to me was how much he was into it. It was fun to watch how horny and desperate he got and I wanted to be a part of it. Locking his cock feels quite empowering. I keep thinking about how his cock is mine now and only I decide what’s going to happen with it. He’s giving me complete control and he’s giving up all of his orgasms. If I wanted to I could decide to never let him cum ever again, so he really has to trust me when he gives me the key. And if I decide that I want him to eat my pussy while his cock stays locked, he has to obey!”
“His cock is my property and I’m very possessive about my property.”
♀: “Chastity involves a transfer of power. Everything changes when you become his keyholder. He no longer owns his cock. He can’t freely jerk off as before and he must now earn his releases. I get immense joy and confidence knowing that he can’t touch or play with himself without my permission. I told him he’s not allowed to ask for release and every time he nags or begs I will only lock him up for longer. He gets his release when I feel he has earned it, not just whenever he’s horny.”
“This is what all modern relationships should look like!”
♀: “I’m so satisfied with him being caged. No way he’s still getting handjobs now that I caged his dick. I told him he is never getting unlocked. I’ll keep him caged and denied. Ruined orgams are all he gets. Does he regret giving me the key? No, it’s exactly what he wanted.”
“He will never get hard for another woman again. I own his penis now.”
♀: “Chastity requires a lot of trust from both partners and it creates a deeper level of intimacy. I’m so glad we started this journey. I used to be a traditional, obedient wife, eager to please her husband. He took sex for granted. Since we started with chastity I only allow him to touch his dick when he’s earned this privilege. He’s more focused now and there’s no more masturbating all the time. I have full control over him and his dick and I wouldn’t ever want to relinquish this control. I am now feeling comfortable as his keyholder and our power dynamic has reversed forever. For me, chastity has become a core tent of our marriage. The thought of him being unlocked and free to masturbate whenever he wants is almost unthinkable now.”
“I shoved his big dick in a cage and now he’s all mine.”
♀: “I’m a lucky girl to have a boyfriend with a big dick, but that just means he needs to be locked up even more so. When I’m not using his dick, I like to sit on his face and suffocate him. Today I made him lick me and then came on my vibrator while grinding all over him.”
“He was supposed to be unlocked tonight, but I think he can wait another week.”
♀: “He begged me to be his keyholder and sent me your website to read. I was confused and overwhelmed at first but after a few weeks I started to like it. One of my rules was that he’s not allowed to ask for a release, he needs to wait until I initiate it. I noticed that the longer he’s locked the better he behaves, but also that when I allow him to cum his orgasms are much more intense. Anytime I touch him he gets instantly hard and that just motivates me to tease him more. Sometimes when I’m not in the mood for sex but he’s been good I allow him to stroke himself in front of me. My only regret now is not knowing about chastity earlier.”
“This is the way it should be.”
♀: “He might be 6”3 but he’s still my good little boy – chastity keeps him so well behaved. I love making his cage tight with a little teasing. Recently I dipped my toes in ballbusting, can’t wait to try it again!”
“He’s become so lovely lately – I can’t give it up yet by letting him cum.”
♀: “I’m so happy I agreed to try this out. I started locking him up for short periods of chastity at first, like a day or two, and since then I have gradually increased the duration and now I allow him to cum about once a week. Somehow I have now developed this fantasy of keeping him denied long-term and lengthening the times between releases even more. Something like one release every 3-6 months is what I want to achieve eventually. I think that’s the perfect release frequency.”
“I have surely gotten a lot of value from your advice :)”
♀: “I hope I’m not oversharing, but I wasn’t satisfied in bed until my husband sent me your site. Since then I’ve decided that small dicks definitely don’t deserve to have full orgasms, so I only let him finish with ruined ones. My husband sent me your site 6 months ago and I really really REALLY can’t overstate how much my marriage has changed since, both inside and especially outside of the bedroom!”
“Chastity is the key to a happy relationship.”
♀: “He’s my boyfriend and we love each other. But we both enjoy kink and femdom very much. After months of being locked and pussyfree I promised him some relief, but I gave him nothing but some gentle ballbusting and teasing before locking him back up. I told him to stop begging and that he’ll only be unlocked when I want him to. Hard months to come! This is only the beginning.”
“I really wish we had started with chastity years ago!”
♀: “The first time I saw the cage I thought it just looked silly and I told him to take it off because it looked like it would hurt. Now I love how chastity makes him so passionate that even just my touch can immediately turn him on. I also love knowing that he can’t masturbate and that all his orgasms come from me. I always tell him how much I love wearing the key around my neck and how empowering it makes me feel.”
“Our relationship is the best it’s ever been, both emotionally and sexually.”
♀: “In our relationship the chastity cage is used to strengthen our bond and intimacy. My boyfriend loves and trusts me enough to let me be completely in charge of our sex life. Since we started with chastity I rarely give him oral or allow him inside me. He goes down on me when I tell him to and he always says how grateful he is to be allowed to please me as he really enjoys tasting me and making me cum. I usually get him off with my hands, about twice a month.”
“Chastity keeps us connected when life gets too hectic.”
♀: “I get what I want, as much as I want, whenever I want it. My husband enjoys my pleasure more than his own (it took him quite some time to convince me that was true) so he gets less direct pleasure and his orgasms are generally spaced 40 to 50 days apart. At a guess, I would say that I get 30-40 orgasms for each of his. However, he still gets lots of sexual gratification in other ways, for example a tease session, a ball squeeze or light ballbusting session, giving me a full body massage, a pegging session and so on. So he frequently gets things he gets sexual enjoyment out of, while saving his orgams for special occasions or when he goes above and beyond.”
“This is how every relationship in 2024 should look.”
♀: “Chastity was his idea originally but he may be regretting it now. We usually do short lock-ups until he can’t take it anymore and then some. Then little breaks and right back in. When his balls don’t seem full enough, I keep him caged and make him give me an orgasm. He gets to make me cum with his tongue every night. His tongue and his eagerness to use toys on me out of desperation make me cum harder than his cock would. I wonder if he remembers how good my pussy feels and how much more teasing I can give him before he hits his limits. I tell him things like “sorry but your balls aren’t full enough yet”, “just keep imagining how good it would feel to fuck me”, or “just because you have a dick doesn’t mean you’ve earned the right to use it”. Just showing him the keys makes him swell up in the cage.”
“I love that he let me introduce male chastity to him.”
♀: “I’m a 22-year-old woman who discovered chastity a year ago. My boyfriend masturbated too much and then I found out that one night he got too intoxicated and even though he didn’t cheat directly he did things no taken man should do. We had a deep conversation. That’s when I proposed male chastity to him and orgasm control. He, being a young man himself, was very nervous but I was adamant. Since we began our journey he’s back to being my sweet boy, no strip clubs or wild nights with the boys, he stays home and cuddles me. To be clear he still sees his friends but he’s not staying out till 3 am. He’s a better student as well since he’s locked.
He’s so good with his tongue and pleasures me every day. If he’s very good, I’ll let him orgasm inside me which is his favorite but that’s a special reward. This year [it’s December] he’s only had 8 orgasms in total and none of them were blowjobs (he’s too small to get a blowjob, I just don’t enjoy it). Most of the time I make him use a cock extender to pleasure me or a strap-on. I love him very much and the sacrifice he’s made to better our relationship. I chose a pink cage for him because I think it’s cute and shows my power. He didn’t like it at first but now he loves it and in my opinion it was always silly of him to be worried about the color of the cage.
Update: I told a few close friends at a bachelorette party about chastity and they all thought it was hot. The bride-to-be wants her fiancé to wear one but she doesn’t think he would. One of my friends though ended up locking her boyfriend after hearing me talk about it. He’s in a fraternity and she said she needs to know his dick is safe. My dynamic remains unchanged. All his friends think he gets laid every time I’m over when in reality he’s just eating pussy!”
“We started with a tiny flat cage but then switched to one that’s really easy to keep clean for long lock-ups.”
♀: “I’m not a dominatrix or like any of the S&M stuff you see in porn, but I’m not gonna lie: I’m a selfish bitch in bed. I demand my pleasure. My ex used to finish first, leaving me unsatisfied and that was frustrating. My current boyfriend pays more attention to me. Some time ago I discovered that it turns me on when he does things to me instead of focusing on his dick. That’s when I got a denial kink. It just feels so hot when I cum and he doesn’t. At first I used to let him finish too, but over time I started to gently deny him. And he’s ok with this. For example, when he fingers me and I’m done and he still wants to fuck me, I tell him that I’m overstimulated now, then I grab his dick and stroke him for a moment but then I kiss him and move my hands away to touch his face. When he wants to jerk off, I just move his hands from his dick to my tits.
Some time ago I discovered male chastity. We decided to give it a try and follow your suggestions. I locked him for 2-3 days, then for a week, and since the end of November [it’s January] he’s been locked 24/7. He’s horny and this turns me on too. Like when we got to bed and he’s the big spoon and I can feel his chastity cage on my back it makes me so wet I just have to slip my fingers in or guide him to do it. He begged me to unlock him before Christmas but I just told him that I don’t think he should be released before the end of the year.
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“He’d feel bad if he’s the only one getting pleasured without any consideration for me.”
♀: “The other day, it occurred to me that it must have been at least a year or more since the last time I gave hubby one of those “pity handjobs” you do before you go to sleep. You know, the ones where he is asking “how about sex” and you’re not in the mood or tired, but you don’t want leave him hanging so you jerk him off or blow him. It used to take me ages until he finally came and I always felt like my arm was falling off. Don’t even get me started on blowjobs!
Since we started chastity for him we’re focusing on my pleasure and I decide when he gets to cum. The number of orgasms I have before going to sleep has massively increased. He is always eager and in the mood to lick me to orgasm. Sometimes, I just get myself off with my vibrator and then go to sleep. No more pity sex for him where I have to get up to clean myself before going to sleep. He hasn’t asked even once!
I also noticed that, even when I offered him a handjob, he would always insist on getting me off first. Thus, I have seemingly stopped to ask him, since I can’t even remember the last time I just something just for him.
The best thing about all of this is that if I now decide to release him with my hands, it only takes a few seconds and it’s no longer an effort and I thoroughly enjoy it each time!”
